Reaching out to exes: yay or nay?

I've had a toxic on-off relationship before, so I know why it's generally a bad idea. But my other ex was never toxic in this way, and we recently ran into each other. He said "don't be a stranger!" as I was walking off. I don't even want to necessarily get back into a relationship with him, but having a friend to talk to and catch up with might be nice. Should I reach out and "not be a stranger," as it were? Part of me is like yes, you're overthinking this due to your social anxiety. But the other part is like no, you idiot 😅

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acupaday · 46-50, F

Ehhh, I don’t know, man. If you want to hang out and catch up that can easily be done over a cup of coffee, but regardless there’s a past there and igniting such an interaction could bring up feelings that could make keeping it platonic difficult. As long as you can keep your emotions in check, I see no harm in opening the door to create a new platonic path. It takes two to create that path though so just be mindful of how easily it could all go awry. The severity of the drama within that what if may not be worth it when there’s plenty of other uncomplicated situations you could build a friendship in.