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MEN- if a woman sent you this apology, what would you think about it?

So just some background: This guy has been pursuing me and I thought he was just playing around so I told him he's not the right guy for me because I felt like it's just too good to be true that things were going so well between us. I thought there's no way that is possible. But then it turned out that he was actually very serious about us and not playing around. I went back and he told me that it doesn't matter anymore because I told him he's not the guy I'm looking for.


After giving it some thought, I decided to reach out to him and send him this apology:

I started by saying "Hiii :) Kyla has been asking me about you." -Kyla is my dog by the way- i mentioned her because he really wanted to meet her.
Then I continued and said

"I think about you everyday. So I really just wanted to say: I had my guard up because I thought our connection was too good to be true, and I was scared and ran. But I realized how dumb I was to second guess myself. And I didn't fully understand how my empty words and running could hurt you too. But I realized that the connection I feel with you even now is worth putting my walls down for. I want to let my guard down and run to you now. And I would appreciate if you allowed me a chance to fix my mistake. I promise I won't run again, unless you want me to."

He hasn't seen my message and it says he has not been online since I sent it.

I am very sincere and genuine in my apology and I'm hoping he'll turn around and give us a shot. I wanted to know from a man's perspective, how you would take that apology. He is 34 and I'm 28.

Thanks.
Wolf90 · M
I would have the walls right up around my feelings after the initial rebuff but that apology would melt enough of them that I would certainly at least talk to the girl again about everything. I don't think you can do much more than what you have. Those feel like heartfelt words and very open and honest. It is now up to him and how he reacts when he reads your message. I think your message is is well written enough to give you hope but it is in his hands now!

Good luck! I hope it goes well for you!
gracek93 · 31-35, F
@Wolf90 Also I sent him this message last night at 7PM and I noticed he has not even been online since yesterday at like 4PM.... So I'm wondering if he even saw I messaged him or what. This is all on whatsapp.
Wolf90 · M
@gracek93 My pleasure :) These things happen.... I am guilty of making a similar mistake as you unfortunately with someone very special so you are far from alone with this! Don't beat yourself up too much... you have already taken as good a first step as you can to try again!
Wolf90 · M
@gracek93 He probably hasn't! You will probably need to give him a little time to process it when he does so don't get too disheartened if he doesn't reply the instant he reads it!
AnthroKenji · 36-40, M
I would interpret it as, maybe there’s a big difference In honesty, you might not know what you’re looking for and you need a better hold of how you communicate. I’d call it done to be honest. I’m about to be 34 don’t have time for games.
ABCDEF7 · M
I don't understand how you communicate with your dog. Lol.. Sorry..

Looks genuine but too much excited. Just your words, "unless you want me to" makes me think you don't yet have faith on him.
Northwest · M
He's probably right when he concluded he's not the guy you're looking for. There's a reason why you told him no initially, and I think he heard it loud and clear.
I'd be leary but that is just my personality. Lol But no this seems like a good sincere apology and it is honest. I'd appreciate it.
gracek93 · 31-35, F
Thanks for all of your feedback. I feel like I really messed this up and I really am hoping he gives me a second shot.
Shiki ·
I'd be a little upset, but it sounds sincere. Best of luck and hope things work out for ya.
sounds sincere and genuine. i would give you another shot.
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
I think it is VERY good.
I wish you all the very best
EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M
Yeah, seems genuine. Hope things work out for you
SW-User
Seems good to me. I'd probably go for it if I was that guy

 
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