Would you be bothered at all/ feel a lil used if you were dating someone and you took them out to eat a lot n they never repayed the favor?

Like I've been seeing this girl for months, and I'll take her out a couple times a week. Sometimes going out to nice places, getting drinks, and usually paying the whole bill which is like 60-100 dollars depending on where we go. Now Sometimes if we go somewhere cheap she'll pay for her half but still she's never offered once to pay mine. I understand that the guy should take care of the bill n all that, but i jus feel like it'd be nice to be taken out n treated like i treat her atleast once. She doesn't work n lives with family while i work full time so i understand that she needs the money that she does get from the government n her family but still i jus feel a lil used

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eyeno · M

An old man once told me..,

"You do something for someone and expect something in return, you'll get hurt everytime." (Your expectations?)

Sweetguy024 · 36-40, M

@eyeno That's very true

eyeno · M

@Sweetguy024 yup..,words to live by.

From that day on whenever I do something nice for someone, I make sure it's from the goodness of my heart or I'll not do it.

Sweetguy024 · 36-40, M

@eyeno true, it's jus hard to say no when i get asked to do something for someone. I want to but than again it's hard for me to not feel a lil used when i repeatedly help people n never get more than a thank you. I do appreciate the gratitude but than when it's followed by more demands n no kind of pay back i start to feel a lil used n usually start to push away/get distant.

eyeno · M

@Sweetguy024 and your right to feel that way.

What I do before it gets to that point, I'll either decline or be very frank by saying up-front,"if your paying than I'll go.".

Saying the word "No" isn't a crime.
Just from this short chat know that your a giver (good heart), but good to be aware of the takers, something we all learn.

Btw: just imagine if you really get involved with that girl. You'd be always wanting ( love, care, emotional support, etc.,.).

Sweetguy024 · 36-40, M

@eyeno that's true as well, if i feel that way while we're just dating it'd get worse if we actually got serious