Don't ya just love it

@OogieBoogie okay your situation is far worse than mine, jeeeeez, but yes fuck complex emotions

@OogieBoogie if you have a restraining order, call the cops!

@Mandalorian if this wasn't such a heavy discussion, I'd absolutely have to make some stupid mando joke lol

@Mandalorian he was clever - the scalp doesn't bruise - and he would grab me by the hair and throw me onto shit.

No punch marks you see 😒

And when the cops are at your door - and you can barely talk, and your throat is red from being crushed - amd they blankly hand you the violence order against you - becuase he was a chicken shit bastard and
Ran immediately to bullshit to them... You sorta start to hate the cops. 🤷‍♀️

@HeWhoLaughs Nah... Mental torture is mental torture.

It's the worst.

It can consume you 😔

@OogieBoogie I have seen what some cops get up to...crooked bastards!

@OogieBoogie Mental torture is worse and takes far longer and much more effort to recover from...

...people who do it to others are criminals, they know that what theyre doing is illegal, and they deserve the fate of criminals!

@Mandalorian it's who gets in first.

I couldn't believe it!!!

My voice was all raspy - finger marks on my neck... Amd I was told I'd have to come in and make a statement which would result in my family being split up.

Like I could fucking drive at that moment!!!

Amd the threat of my kids losing a parent - that was a nice touch - way to make a terrified mother feel supported!

FUCK 'EM!! 🤬

@OogieBoogie in my case it was her basically kicking me out once she was in a non horny mood and bored of me, not willing to work through our differences,which we easily could have. She effectively ignored all the time and effort I put into bonding with her 3yo son, fuck i miss the cheeky lil bugger.

@Mandalorian ahhh, but they live in a world of sneaky justification and secrecy.

They actually block out the things they have done!

How do you prove someone is mentally torturing you? 🤷‍♀️

They're clever little cowards 😏

@OogieBoogie fkn useless wankers!

@OogieBoogie Keep a meticulous diary, and capture everything you can on video etc...I think that's pretty much the only way...

@HeWhoLaughs that's so sad!

She seems so insular.


Sounds like she didn't ignore all your attention - she used it.

I'm so sorry for you😔

@Mandalorian I left.

I don't wanna keep a diary!!

It'd be just horrific to remember everything.

Amd it's just words - mine against his.


I'd prefer to forget 😊

@OogieBoogie yeah looking back I do feel really used at times, yet others she was fantastic to be with, so that still deeply confuses me

@OogieBoogie well, I hope you do forget it all eventually and heal from it...🤗

@Mandalorian you too man!


I want those memories to just become overgrown from neglect.

But it sucks when the smallest thing can tear one open - and leave you raw like it was yesterday 😒

@HeWhoLaughs i'd say "look at the patterns"

I had a wonderful someone - took me years to wake up to "they were only kind and generous when they had something to gain" - to butter me up for something they wanted.

I didn't see the pattern for years!!!