Marriage
Why does it have to be so difficult. I am married but feel like I've never been so lonely. All I want is someone to care for me, listen to me and hold me close. I know I'm a guy but is it too much to ask?
56-60, M
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SW-User
Establish open lines of communication. Express your distress and feelings of loneliness--if your partner can't comprehend, maybe it's time to move forward... life is too short to spend it being unhappy.
Jesterblue · 56-60, M
Tried to talk but I'm unfortunately still in love. With that and the kids I couldn't leave.
SW-User
@Jesterblue: If your SW age is correct, you should definitely reevaluate. I'm sure the kids would be far better off seeing you both happy on your own than seeing any one of you miserable in a marriage that just isn't coming together as a whole. Lead by example.
Jesterblue · 56-60, M
Easy to say. The kids see the problem and are asking why mum is having a go at me. They can't see it's logical. Got called selfish tonight because I poured a glass of wine whilst she was in the shower then she had a go at me over coffee which we weren't drinking. I firmly believe she needs help and wouldn't want the kids to stay without me. Most of 'our' friends are hers, I can't talk to the because they report back and I am still loyal to her. Wish it was that easy
SW-User
@Jesterblue: Definitely is always a lot easier said than done. Have you both tried seeing a marriage counselor? Most people resort to them a little too late--more as a means to end things... but who knows, maybe it'll help her understand the problem. Or what kind of other help do you think she needs?