Marriage
Why does it have to be so difficult. I am married but feel like I've never been so lonely. All I want is someone to care for me, listen to me and hold me close. I know I'm a guy but is it too much to ask?
56-60, M
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Jesterblue · 56-60, M
Been there. She's not wanting too.
naoradix · 36-40, F
Don't give up. Why doesn't she want to be affectionate? Can you explain to me how she's acting?
Jesterblue · 56-60, M
@naoradix: her age doesn't help (if you know what I mean), the kids are her priority, she has stress from work, and I've had PTSD etc for the last four years which has taken most of her love away. She sees that most things that go wrong are my fault (both big and small) and the things I'm doing to get my life back on track (such as yoga and meditation) are selfish. If my daily priorities are different to hers then I should just leave. My priorities are generally her and the kids but hers are the kids and housework. She has gone through a lot which has been caused by my illness and me and perhaps it's my turn to take it from her!
naoradix · 36-40, F
Honestly, she's making excuses to stay in control, and you're letting her. Having PTSD shouldn't be something you feel bad about. And she's the one making you feel guilty for something you can't control, and are working on. If you want the marriage to be healthy, you have to gain confidence about yourself, and stop letting her hurt you and keep you under her thumb. What she's doing to you is manipulative. You don't need a divorce - you need to see what she's doing to you for what it really is, and take control. Stop taking her shit, and start making healthy demands.