Why am I still mean to my ex?
Even after I've already forgiven him? Really, when I'm alone I wish him all the best, no hard feelings, but when he's around me I find myself super cold and a bit unkind. It's been a year since we broke up.
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Justbychance · M
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"Forgetting" is not possible.
Justbychance · M
Forgetting is possible, but only if you let go. One could say that every experience in life (good and bad) are unforgettable but that is not entirely true. It's been one year, you clearly haven't moved on, you say forgetting is not possible ... but it IS an option. Do you think you will forever bring up his memory for 'X' number of years?
But don't forget what you said; 'Why am I still mean to my ex? Even after I've already forgiven him?'
Clearly he isn't forgiven and you are harbouring thoughts. But then again, you don't declare that he did something catastrophic.
But don't forget what you said; 'Why am I still mean to my ex? Even after I've already forgiven him?'
Clearly he isn't forgiven and you are harbouring thoughts. But then again, you don't declare that he did something catastrophic.
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There's a difference between forgetting and forgiving isn't it?
Justbychance · M
@MissingNotes: [quote]There's a difference between forgetting and forgiving isn't it?[/quote]
I can't say I agree in FULL. If a part of forgiving excludes forgetting, then is it right to call it forgiving? I get it, I get what you are saying. 'Forgiving is one thing, forgetting is another' but surely forgetting has to be the ultimate aim. If I was to forgive someone with no real ambition of forgetting what that person did, then I can't see how I can say I have forgiven.
I get what you are saying, I truly do. We can all carry on through our lives digging up old, bad memories and telling ourselves we can never forget and put it down to our memories. But surely, isn't life a whole experience which is blended with good and bad memories for us all to live with? Yet that doesn't mean to say that we spend half our lives getting on with things and the other half remembering (re-visiting) bad issues.
There are obvious exceptions; granted, and I don't even know what the guy did to hurt you. Only you know if it's a bad enough experience to say that you truly cannot forget the nature of what he did.
I can't say I agree in FULL. If a part of forgiving excludes forgetting, then is it right to call it forgiving? I get it, I get what you are saying. 'Forgiving is one thing, forgetting is another' but surely forgetting has to be the ultimate aim. If I was to forgive someone with no real ambition of forgetting what that person did, then I can't see how I can say I have forgiven.
I get what you are saying, I truly do. We can all carry on through our lives digging up old, bad memories and telling ourselves we can never forget and put it down to our memories. But surely, isn't life a whole experience which is blended with good and bad memories for us all to live with? Yet that doesn't mean to say that we spend half our lives getting on with things and the other half remembering (re-visiting) bad issues.
There are obvious exceptions; granted, and I don't even know what the guy did to hurt you. Only you know if it's a bad enough experience to say that you truly cannot forget the nature of what he did.