Istg im gonna stay a virgin all my life

Yeah, I feel that. Sometimes I think I'm too messed up and insecure to develop close relationships with people even if they're platonic, and my track record hasn't been great. But somehow it doesn't keep me from trying. We deserve to have people we feel comfortable being ourselves with.

That’s completely ok 💕 it’s your body your choice. I got bullied at school because I was still a virgin and I had no interest in sex back then , they used to say I will be a nun when I’m older and start pretending to pray on the floor when they seen me walk past. The girls who was doing it one was my friend in the group well I thought she was a friend but obviously not. But I didn’t let them pressure me into doing things I didn’t feel ready for. I’m 20 and I’m happy to say I still have very little interest in loosing my virginity I’m too busy trying to get my life together and my job is keeping me really busy. People assume because I do sex work i actually have sex I don’t I only strip many of times I turned down sex with people who tried to pay me for it , it isn’t my thing , there’s nothing wrong with having sex , it’s just not for everyone and some prefer to wait.

I was that way until my boyfriend.
Ive been abused a lot and I have scars between my legs from it so I figured I would never find someone who would look at me and want me.
And general physical pain issues.
And then also my fear of men and trust issues.
It took me a good relationship, and about several shots of whiskey+several shots of brandy+an entire wine cooler+Anxiety medication.

For me to actually do anything.
Eventually it will happen for u.

My best friend would say exactly the same but she's slowly opening up to the idea. Decisions like this are never fixed.

You will probably feel differently at some point

same boat with who and how to trust at 36

Eh, you don't know what life will be like in five, ten, twenty years. The trust and comfort can come and change in time.

You could also never have sex and be very happy with that. All possibilities are open.

But "rest of my life" basically never applies when you're young. Too much shit changes.

Its nice when you find that because its quite rare. But as I said it really is rare if you're one of the types of people where being comfortable and trusting someone matters (same here). Plus someone being that close opens you up to a lot of pain.

I completely agree. I am in the same boat.

YES!! Thank you :) agreed

You just need to find the right person at the right port-o-potty

What??