I really dont understand guys

Is it just me or do yall have this happen to yall too?

I gave this guy a suggestion if he wanted to go out with me while in quarantine maybe start with video chats and etc. So then the next day, late at night I get a text saying "we should video chat" now I'm baffled cause I thought he would do it in the day light or ask me before hand. It's like 12am and I'm a mess. My hair is in a bonnet and im exhausted from cleaning the house so I look extra messy. 🤣🤣🤣 now I think hes mad cause I said no. I dont get it.

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th3r0n · 41-45, M

Hate to tell you, if video chat request is coming in late at night, it’s probably sexually motivated

Not always, but usually

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@th3r0n yeah I started thinking that if some dude wants to late night video chat with me.

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@xXAlternativeblkchicxX seems to be a theme, there’s less people around at night and you’re likely home alone and less dressed, and if you’re going to be horny that’s a likely time

I wouldn’t think that if he had video chatted with you many times necessarily, but if you mention it and then he waits for midnight, that’s my first thought

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@th3r0n yeah we never video chatted so my mind went straight to "hes horny"

th3r0n · 41-45, M

@xXAlternativeblkchicxX yep, not a good way to start a relationship

even if you ignore morals, which you shouldn’t, starting a relationship with sexual attachments will make you feel more interested than you would be, and there may not be anything else to be had between you, also even if there is some to find it develops the relationship on a more shallow basis and doesn’t allow for deeper friendship to develop, which is important

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@th3r0n yeah I only like developing relationships if there is romantic feeling or friendship in it. Sexual is not my priority. After all of that I'm not talking to him anymore