I really dont understand guys

Is it just me or do yall have this happen to yall too?

I gave this guy a suggestion if he wanted to go out with me while in quarantine maybe start with video chats and etc. So then the next day, late at night I get a text saying "we should video chat" now I'm baffled cause I thought he would do it in the day light or ask me before hand. It's like 12am and I'm a mess. My hair is in a bonnet and im exhausted from cleaning the house so I look extra messy. 🤣🤣🤣 now I think hes mad cause I said no. I dont get it.

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hartfire

Just tell him that it was far too late at night for you, that you were embarrassed because your hair was in a bonnet and you were exhausted from cleaning the house so you looked at your worst.

Tell him you'd like to arrange a date for when you can look at your best - and suggest a few times.

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@hartfire yeeeeeeeeeeah I said something similar like that he just not texting me back, left me on read xD

hartfire

@xXAlternativeblkchicxX Hmm. If he can't accept a no, maybe he's not the right guy.

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@hartfire yeah I think you're right. I didnt develop anything from him honestly just stuck with the small talk stage with him.

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hartfire

@xXAlternativeblkchicxX Only at the small talk stage! He sounds like a someone who either has no clue about how to develop a real relationship, or was only interested in you for his gratification. If the latter, those guys don't deserve one second of consideration. If all women boycott them, some might eventually realise that women are whole human beings with feelings that matter, not objects to be used. Sorry, but that type of male infuriates me. I'd lobotomize and castrate them if it was legal.

xXAlternativeblkchicxX · 22-25, F

@hartfire I honestly feel the same way! I found guys like that waaaay too often. And yeah it definitely sucks.

hartfire

@xXAlternativeblkchicxX At 18, young men are at the peak of their testosterone. Every year after that, the level drops by 1%.
At 18 years, he hormones that drive libido in women are [i][b]14 times[/b][/i] less. For us too, our drive drops 1% each year.
This means men always have far more drive than we do.
For young men, desire is fun when they're on the chase with a prospect of success, and in the moments before, during and just after getting what they want. But it all starts again 20 minutes later, and within a day is becoming intolerable. For them, especially when they can't get what they want, desire is a perpetual source of frustration, anger and disappointment.

Biologically and neurologically, most men don't start to grow up and begin to see and treat women as whole human beings until between 26 and 30.
And that still depends on factors like upbringing, beliefs and character.
A man who's had a loving mother and at least one sister (close in age) is usually the best in a relationship with a woman. He absorbs a lot of understanding in childhood, and can't see a woman as anything other than a person with autonomy, personal tastes and the right to say no.