Any advice?

Me (f, 21) and my boyfriend (m, 24) -- we love each other so much. But as the time goes by, [b]I'm falling out of love with him[/b].

We're always on the phone talking with each other. But it's not like before...

There's no spark.
There's no sweetness.
It feels like there's already overfamiliarity with each other :(

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

If your goal is a long term relationship or even marriage, overfamiliarity is going to set in eventually. You will need to determine if that is something you are okay with, because if not then maybe marriage isn't in your future. Or maybe you are more suited to a polyamourus style.

But to focus back on your current situation. I would start to think about what you want to do in life and where you want to go. And see if your partner shares in those. If he does, it may be time to switch from exploring each other to working together towards a shared future and helping each other grow.

If he doesn't seem to be heading in the direction you wish to go, it may be time to move on. Otherwise one of you is going to need to sacrifice your own future and that lack of sweetness could turn bitter. If you wish to discuss further, feel free to continue here or reach out.