Pregnancy & dating...

The guy I've been seeing (who is widowed) just found out a few days ago that his ex fling may be pregnant with his child. He swears up & down he doesn't want to lose me & he doesn't have feelings for her, but of course he wants to be in the child's life.

I have so many trust issues with men with baby mamas...

Please, advice!

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NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

well this is an iffy situation at your age - well any age really. As you age it is very common for men to have children with other females. So on one hand you have to decide if you can accept that or not BUT this case is different because he isn't very sure if he is the dad. My advice to you is to not see him until he has all his ducks in a row. It may or may not mean you can resume after the child is born. But discuss with him that since he doesn't know yet if (or how) a baby is going to change HIS life it's not very reasonable to anticipate how much the situation will affect yours either by dating him. If he's not the dad and you're still both single great, you can reconvene later. Otherwise it's too much a risk and too much an investment to make at this time on ur end.