Is my boyfriend over-sexualizing and/or objectifying me?
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Yes He Is Objectifying
Yes He IsOver-Sexualizing
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I am currently not speaking to my bf right now. Over the last few weeks, I've began to feel objectified by my partner.
He's bisexual. Into any type of female but only into chubby guys. I am overweight...so I guess I fit his mold.
Lately, he has said things and done things that make me feel that my body is the only reason that we are together.
For example, we were video chatting and I was eating an ice-cream cone. He went on to stare and say "I like the way you're eating that ice-cream cone." Then referring to other sexual activities that involved licking and stuff. I didn't need that.
Then he is constantly reminding me that he is into chubby guys. He keeps referring to sucking my nipples (I had to get him to stop using the other word..."titties", as I saw it to be offensive. And I'm a guy).
I feel like he is over-sexualizing everything and a simple conversation can turn into him sharing his sexual fantasies and it just kills the mood.
I'm not too much of a sexual individual. I don't want to disrespect him and I understand that sex is a part of relationships. But right now I don't need that. We are still waiting for the COVID-19 situation to blow over so we can go on a first real date.
Am I overreacting to this? Is the problem him or is it me?
He's bisexual. Into any type of female but only into chubby guys. I am overweight...so I guess I fit his mold.
Lately, he has said things and done things that make me feel that my body is the only reason that we are together.
For example, we were video chatting and I was eating an ice-cream cone. He went on to stare and say "I like the way you're eating that ice-cream cone." Then referring to other sexual activities that involved licking and stuff. I didn't need that.
Then he is constantly reminding me that he is into chubby guys. He keeps referring to sucking my nipples (I had to get him to stop using the other word..."titties", as I saw it to be offensive. And I'm a guy).
I feel like he is over-sexualizing everything and a simple conversation can turn into him sharing his sexual fantasies and it just kills the mood.
I'm not too much of a sexual individual. I don't want to disrespect him and I understand that sex is a part of relationships. But right now I don't need that. We are still waiting for the COVID-19 situation to blow over so we can go on a first real date.
Am I overreacting to this? Is the problem him or is it me?
