Dating anxiety anyone?

I see a pretty girl. I don't see a ring. A voice says "go for it. What is the worst she can say? No? That's the same answer as if you do nothing." Me: ok, I'll ask her for dinner. Before I can even move, another voice says "Dude, are you really gonna put her through this. I know you own a mirror. Do you honestly think she woke up this morning hoping for .......YOU to come in to her life? Walk away. She's better off without you anyway." But by then I've been staring at her for 10 seconds. Now she thinks I'm a psychopath stalking her. I'll just leave.

A month later I come in. I see her. I smile as I walk by. She doesn't even acknowledge my existence. Yep, she hates me. Never come here again.

Am I the only one who has these things happen to me? Is it just anxiety? Do I really scare people? Or is it all paranoia that I'm not good enough for anybody?

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RebeccaJP · 41-45, F

I have anxiety too, and I’m constantly aware of how I look to people out in public. I have to remind myself though that I don’t really know what people are thinking; it could be good, bad, or they might be completely indifferent to me!! In your case that girl probably didn’t even see you. If you ask her out and she says no, will it really be that bad? It doesn’t seem like she’s someone you actually know, just someone you come across every now and then. However, if she says yes to you asking her out, you could have a really great time, maybe have a relationship out of it, or at the least it will give you confidence to try it again with another girl.