Dating anxiety anyone?

I see a pretty girl. I don't see a ring. A voice says "go for it. What is the worst she can say? No? That's the same answer as if you do nothing." Me: ok, I'll ask her for dinner. Before I can even move, another voice says "Dude, are you really gonna put her through this. I know you own a mirror. Do you honestly think she woke up this morning hoping for .......YOU to come in to her life? Walk away. She's better off without you anyway." But by then I've been staring at her for 10 seconds. Now she thinks I'm a psychopath stalking her. I'll just leave.

A month later I come in. I see her. I smile as I walk by. She doesn't even acknowledge my existence. Yep, she hates me. Never come here again.

Am I the only one who has these things happen to me? Is it just anxiety? Do I really scare people? Or is it all paranoia that I'm not good enough for anybody?

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ScarletWitch · 31-35, F

I mean, you had a better chance 20 years ago.

RebeccaJP · 41-45, F

@ScarletWitch That’s mean.

1Dogma · F

@ScarletWitch 😱🤭

SW-User

@ScarletWitch that's pretty rude

Bobby1123422 · M

@ScarletWitch 20 years ago I was unemployed, 100lbs heavier, living in my parent's house doing everything I knew how to take care of my sick mother while my father traveled for business to pay her medical bills. Every woman I met just wanted to know where I work, how much I make per year, how much my car costs, and how much i have in the bank. A few years ago my mom passed and that's when my dad started going down hill. He finally gave up and recently killed himself. My whole life I've been taking care of the people who raised me. Now I don't know how to start my life as a single man. After my dad died I lost 100 lbs, I have a job making $100 per day, but I completely skipped over that whole beginning part of adulthood. I wouldn't trade my parent's health for a woman that might not stick around anyway. But you are right. 20 years ago if my parents were healthy, I would definitely have a better chance.