Is it that bad if I make a surprise for my lover then he got nothing for me for Valentine's?

Its not bad....but how do you feel about it?
I always used to try and do something special. Id do a special meal, candles and all, make cards, but i got a card and told....its 'comercial rip off day' and he never bought me anything. It became the norm and i stopped making the effort.
Its the other way arou d these days. He buys.....i dont.