If you know that someone isn't being faithful to his or her boyfriend or girlfriend, how can the person being cheated on be informed about it and ...

believe it's true? It's not fair that the person who's doing things behind his or her boyfriend's or girlfriend's back is getting away with it.

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4meAndyou · F

One very strange thing that happens when you inform on a cheater is that your friend...(the person who is being cheated upon)...will usually hate you afterward. It's not logical, but it happens. Denial, followed by the wish to kill the messenger is a normal reaction. And never discount the possibility that they already know, and love the S.O. anyway.

joahola98wj · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou The person being cheated on is blinded by his or her love for the person who's cheating on him or her. She was caught once. She wasn't caught the second time she did it.

4meAndyou · F

@joahola98wj I once dropped a friend...never saw her again...because her husband made a pass at me. I cared about my friend, I knew how much she loved her husband, and I had sufficient wisdom, even at age 21, to realize that if I told her what her husband did, she would NOT leave her husband, but she would hate ME. I wasn't willing to hurt her that way, and I knew that she would find out about her husband on her own.

joahola98wj · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou Did you tell your friend why you weren't going to be friends anymore or you stopped hanging out with her without saying why?

4meAndyou · F

@joahola98wj I just ghosted her and her handsy husband. I would rather she just thought I was a bad person than explain...anything.

joahola98wj · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou That's a selfless thing to do. :)