A Serious Q for Men in their 60s. If you are, or were single, and you were attracted to a woman...

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If you are, or were single, and you were attracted to a woman in the same age range, could you be satisfied with just companionship (assuming you enjoyed her company), affection, and sharing common interests?

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nickir · M

Yes, as long as she wouldn't mind me sleeping with other girls. If I'm fulfilling what she needs & guaranteeing that she won't be 2nd to anyone I'm sleeping with, why not? She would brew there for me non-sexually & I'd do the same.

Carissimi · F

An interesting response. @nickir

nickir · M

@Carissimi if she's not sleeping with me, she can't readily be jealous. I would still be available.
Unless it's just a dwant in which case she's in the wrong. A dwant is I don't want to sleep with him but you can't either. That isn't reasonable, especially since she's getting the platonic partner she wants.

Carissimi · F

I agree. I just don’t think many would want this arrangement, but it makes sense to me.@nickir

indyjoe · 56-60, M

I'm only in my 50's but would like to answer if you don't mind....First of all age doesn't always mean sex does, should, or will end. Secondly. sex is important to a relationship but isn't the most important thing and cannot sustain it alone, but those other things you mentioned can (even when sex is for some reason not in the equation). They are the building block foundation of a healthy, strong, and lasting relationship.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

@Carissimi I didn't say that sex isn't needed, in fact I said it was important. What I was saying is that a marriage and relationship CAN survive and thrive with out it. You mentioned affection and that is a form of physical love (and intimacy). Take for instance if my wife for some reason could not have sex any more I would not throw away our marriage and relationship, cheat on her or leave her to find someone who could. and that is because we have what you said...companionship, affection (both physical and emotional), and sharing common interests. There is also selflessness, respect, and understanding. We are husband & wife, we are partners, but we are lovers and each other's BEST FRIEND which is more important than sex to making our relationship thrive. Does that make better sense?

Carissimi · F

Yes. However, your wife would not be rejecting you. You would still have a good relationship. If she were healthy and rejected you repeatedly for months, years, or decades, for no good reason that would be a different matter, and very damaging. @indyjoe

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@Carissimi If that happens to a couple then they have no relationship in the first place. And actually my wife is physically healthy and actually likes sex, but she is on certain medications that greatly lowers her libido. It can easily go a month or more between times we engage in sex.

acpguy · C

Yes.......however I am married. My wife had breast cancer and a mastectomy 15 years ago and it came back in her bones last year but she is doing well. I have enjoyed her company for 37 years, we had great sex, traveled together for work and play during those years and have enjoyed a combined family of six kids. I love her immensely but we have had basically a companionship type of marriage for the past 4-6 years. I have no complaints and still enjoy our marriage.

I think this might be an answer to your question despite somewhat windy.

Carissimi · F

I’m sorry about your wife’s health. I wish her the best. My question was not about sexless in a marriage, and being content, but about being single and meeting someone new, and if you would want sex in a new relationship. @acpguy

nowic2 · 61-69, M

I'm single & very close to 60. In terms of a relationship I would only companionship, maybe building to a relationship. Sex is good but for me, now it would be very much the icing on the cake, only after confidence & trust in my partner were well & truly established.

Carissimi · F

I feel the same. @nowic2

nowic2 · 61-69, M

@Carissimi I hope you find the companionship soon. If it's meant to be the rest will follow in its own time. Best wishes.

Carissimi · F

Thank you. @nowic2

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

This was an interesting post and read for me my friend:) I appreciate you asking thought provoking and thoughtful questions.

Carissimi · F

Thanks, Raven. 🤗@ravenwind43

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

Yes I could... but I really would like sex to be a part of it too...

Carissimi · F

Maybe that could come later, after trust is built.@Snuffy1957

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

@Carissimi that would actually make it mean more🤗

Frank52 · 70-79, M

Getting to your 60s is just arriving at another decade. A healthy man has all the needs he had in his younger years...and all the morals so will probably behave in the same way he did in earlier times. Perhaps with just a smidgen less stamina. 😴

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Frank52 · 70-79, M

@Carissimi I think many men will be very happy with a deep but platonic friendship. Not everyone expects it to automatically end up with anything else.

Carissimi · F

Well, romantic but without sex...at least for some time. @Frank52

Frank52 · 70-79, M

@Carissimi Yes, you've got it Carissimi. 🙂 Quite a novel idea perhaps for some.

walabby · 61-69, M

Yes. Practically there now.. :/

Carissimi · F

I’m sorry to hear this because it’s not what you want, is it? @walabby

walabby · 61-69, M

@Carissimi No. We'd all like to stay young forever.. :)

Carissimi · F

Young enough to desire and be desired, at least. @walabby

SageWanderer · 70-79, M

I could be satisfied for a while but honestly think I would want more after a while. The best things do start slowly and build.

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SageWanderer · 70-79, M

@Carissimi I'll start by saying that I may be old but I'm not dead. And also my expectations of intimacy in a relationship at this age differs from what was thought of in my younger years. Trust has a lot more to do with it than a physical attraction.

Carissimi · F

Trust is extremely important to me, and that takes time to build. @SageWanderer

SageWanderer · 70-79, M

@Carissimi At this age and what I have been through in life trust is very important.

Zonuss · 41-45, M

As a younger man I can understand where are coming from. Even though sex is important it's not the only thing in a relationship that matters. It is part of the package once you are in a serious long term relationship. Most Men are committed by that age anyway. But be yourself and don't sabotage yourself or the relationship as people who have issues like to do. In other words don't get in the way of your own happiness. 🙂