Are you too screwed up to be loved

Correct. But loneliness and isolation are extremely bad for mental health. I know this from experience and want to use that experience to say to others, don’t give up, don’t give in, try, try and try again. Make more sensible choices, get out of bad relationships earlier, demand respect in relationships or walk if you’re not being treated properly. Don’t let the assholes who stole your happiness also steal your future. There are many, many bad people out there, the trick is to look for one of those special people who is a good decent hearted person, who would be really genuine about trying to make you happy as much as you try to make them happy. Even though the possibilities might be small, it’s still worth a go as you might, just might, find a gem who can make you feel wanted, loved and secure. @kodiac

@LukeTheDuke Short example ,when i was 14 i had a mentor through a program we did stuff together ,fun stuff ,i looked forward to the time when he would come and take me out to do stuff ,i could open up to him and i guess i loved him .This lasted about 6 months then he just stopped coming i asked the social worker what happened .She matter of factly said well his comunity service is complete so there is no reason for him to come. But at least he didn't molest me like the others .

Hurtful. But people are fickle. Look for good people in spite of the fact there are also many bad ones to avoid. @kodiac

@LukeTheDuke and some give up aka me.. I know you are trying for me to think positive but may be it's beyond my control now

Never. One last try might give you the miracle.@SW-User

@LukeTheDuke My sanity is more important

I wish you and hubby all the best. @Snowvixen

What led to you becoming unstable and unhappy? @PiecingBabyFaceTogether

@LukeTheDuke Chronic health problems (I deal with Muscular Dystrophy) and depression caused by health problems and heartbreaks.

I see. I’m sorry you’re wrestling with depression, it’s a truly awful illness.However, depression can be overcome with the right treatment and self love. You can also seek plenty of support, even on forums like this and other places online. Constantly talking through and analysing your feelings, with the help of others will reveal the roots of your depression and in turn allow you to uproot those problems. Millions upon millions of people, myself included, have suffered and recovered. Always remember people can recover. There may be lots of fear, crying, anxieties, setbacks, but the human mind can eventually find ways to minimise pain, cope better and even feel hopeful. So, in short depression is a part of the human experience, not a permanent barrier to love.

You also have a physical health condition and that does make love (and life)more challenging, but it does not prevent you from deserving love or a special relationship. A good hearted and caring person can accept a partner with health challenges. Many paralympians for instance have partners and children, and your condition, although serious, is no where near as challenging as some of those people. There are blind people, and wheelchair users with partners. Disability or illness does not disqualify a person from love or wanting to be loved. You will always need to work hard on building a positive self image, and to develop coping skills as you will encounter rejection (we all suffer it). You also need to recognise that set backs are a part of life, but you shouldn’t settle with disappointment. Rather you should drive yourself to keep your dreams alive and regularly remind yourself YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED IF YOU ARE WILLING TO ALSO GIVE LOVE. Never, retreat from that hope. @PiecingBabyFaceTogether

@LukeTheDuke

Yes, that’s hurtful. But it doesn’t sound as if you are screwed up. It sounds more as if you’ve been unlucky in love and just haven’t found a person who wants to commit to you. That is very common, people now have so many idealised views of what they want from a relationship that they overlook a good person in front of them. @NewBeginnings7790

@LukeTheDuke Thanks for the kind words.

Why?@SW-User

@LukeTheDuke I wish I knew.

Is it looks, are you shy, argumentative, stubborn, under confident , bullied as a child etc. You must at least have a suspicion as to the cause or causes. @SW-User

Why so?@JupiterDreams

That’s great. @MalteseFalconPunch

That’s great. And I’m just off to read your story. @Shayama

Why do you think that is so?@rokrchik1211