Why is it when people start relationships with someone who has a certain type of job, they end up wanting them to leave said job?

For example, X has been a cop before meeting Y, but after they get into a relationship or married, Y wants X to give up that job?

You got him/her in that particular profession, why demand a change afterwards?

Do you think it's fair?

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4meAndyou · F

I think change is a constant in any relationship. Thinking about your scenario, I would speculate that Y probably got involved with X and fell in love, but was really pretty ignorant or ill informed about what was actually involved in his job.

Even more speculatively: As time went by, Y realized that X would have to be in constant danger, and began to fear that X would be killed...and that fear grew with every news or television show that Y watched. Perhaps Y began to want X to be safe...ALL the time...because Y's love had deepened.