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Is it wrong to want a partners social media password to confirm infidelity? (Please read)

I’m pretty sure of the kinds of responses I’ll get anyway, however.... I do know that people are often very, VERY curious.

Not “curious” simply to be nosey but curious for that extra confirmation. Sometimes tangible evidence is necessary, especially when someone is continuously insulting your intelligence and gaslighting you to believe that what you’re saying and accusing them of just isn’t true.

[b]Edit;
I have all reasons to believe he’s doing wrong because he’s very flirtatious with women even in my face, so I can imagine in private. I have all reasons to be suspicious.
He turns his phone face-down when we are together, if we are sleep together and I wake up and he’s using his phone, he quickly x’s out whatever he’s looking at....[/b]

I know the saying goes “if there’s no trust , it’s over already” and that itself is usually obvious at that point...however....

Is it wrong to want access to a partners social media messages to help you walk away for good?

I’m the kind of person that would walk away as soon as I see a message DM confirming his infidelity.

Sometimes we stay because we don’t have proof and often times we have to “believe” their word. But what if someone’s word just isn’t good enough because their actions don’t quite align?

I admit, I am that person guilty of wanting to acquire a Instagram password because I know it’s a gold mine. Everything he’s ever lied to me about is in that inbox...
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MasterofNone · 26-30, M
If I were you I'd ask them what was up and what are my reasons to question their fidelity. Based on their explanation or lack of I'd make my decision to stay or leave but I wouldn't check their cell phone. Firstly, it's private. Secondly, they could remove evidence and you could be wrongly deceived. Thirdly, practical evidences are never enough to remove suspicion. They just stop you from accusing someone or taking an action. But for a relationship to be loving, practical evidences or lack of doesn't mean anything unless they're completely unexpected.

Finally, we can clearly see trust is lacking on both sides and it is almost always that way.
Mrowe718 · 41-45, F
@MasterofNone when I ask questions he’s very defensive, so that won’t get me anywhere.

But I agree with you.
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
@Mrowe718 I know it's hard to leave without evidence. That'll always make you ask 'what if....'. But hey that's the hard part.