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Is it wrong to want a partners social media password to confirm infidelity? (Please read)

I’m pretty sure of the kinds of responses I’ll get anyway, however.... I do know that people are often very, VERY curious.

Not “curious” simply to be nosey but curious for that extra confirmation. Sometimes tangible evidence is necessary, especially when someone is continuously insulting your intelligence and gaslighting you to believe that what you’re saying and accusing them of just isn’t true.

[b]Edit;
I have all reasons to believe he’s doing wrong because he’s very flirtatious with women even in my face, so I can imagine in private. I have all reasons to be suspicious.
He turns his phone face-down when we are together, if we are sleep together and I wake up and he’s using his phone, he quickly x’s out whatever he’s looking at....[/b]

I know the saying goes “if there’s no trust , it’s over already” and that itself is usually obvious at that point...however....

Is it wrong to want access to a partners social media messages to help you walk away for good?

I’m the kind of person that would walk away as soon as I see a message DM confirming his infidelity.

Sometimes we stay because we don’t have proof and often times we have to “believe” their word. But what if someone’s word just isn’t good enough because their actions don’t quite align?

I admit, I am that person guilty of wanting to acquire a Instagram password because I know it’s a gold mine. Everything he’s ever lied to me about is in that inbox...
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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
I thinks generally good to have an open policy on passwords and social media. My husband has asked me to send messages on his Facebook for him. I’ve had him text others. He knows how to access this account of mine etc I agree with the sentiment with no trust it’s not going to improve. But if you feel strongly enough you believe he’s doing you wrong. I’d say it doesn’t appear he’ll be sharing that info with you willingly. Rather than extend your pain and frustration further by demanding he show you and him saying nope. Leave him, end this and move on. It’s healthiest for you.
Mrowe718 · 41-45, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit I agree. If he wanted to see mine he would be more than free to do so. I have nothing to hide. Evidently, he does.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Mrowe718 so you have a choice tell him he has to show you... knowing he probably won’t and then ask again and again etc or stop asking, trust your gut and leave him. The choice is yours