Is asking for space in relationship wrong?

I am in relationship after 7 years of my breakup. I have to speak to her all the time if not we will get in to arguments. either i have to be in video call or regular call when she is away from me. I give her space when she hangout with her friends. IF i hang out with my friends she will make number of calls and ask how long i will be there with them all questions. I have to be on call when im cooking i have to be on call when im listening to my favorite music i have to be on call with her no matter what im doing. Im not getting my space. If im not in conversation with her she says i think you dont love me as much as i do. She takes the this conversation to the stage of i get frustrated and irritated and she says im afraid of loosing you i never met a guy like you. Im confused. I dont want to do my love life like a duty it has to be a responsibility.

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4meAndyou · F

SHE doesn't love you...because SHE does not trust you. Obviously she has some sort of neediness going on and needs constant reassurance, which also means she has very low self esteem.

I know how you feel. I dated a man very briefly who was so needy he wanted to talk on the phone for more than an hour every time he called. I am not a chatty person in RL and he was driving me insane.

If I could make a suggestion, I would copy and paste what you wrote about into a text and send it to her.

Possessive women or men who have to know where you are and what you are doing every second are actually being abusive.