Why.... just why?

Why is it that whenever I actually am able to meet people online they all immediately start asking me personal questions. Where are you from? How old are you? When is your birthday? Like why not just come out with it and just ask what my friggin’ SS# is? Why can’t we just have a normal conversation and talk about normal stuff?!?!?!?!?

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Johnblackthorn · 56-60, M

Hmm, if you want to "talk about normal stuff" you really need to meet people in a normal way, like outside or in a club.
the trouble with on line meeting is that when you meet in real life the other person can guess that you might be local to the area, your age can be visually assessed as can wether you're nice to look at or be near,
on line all this is impossible and people that lie on profiles tend to be stupid, hence the "how old are you? Knowing your profile says 28 they'll then ask," when were you born? Oh 12 jan 1965 would be my reply now they know they've found a lying git, within a few messages they'll want a photo, now it's no use me sending a selfie, I've said I'm 28 and a look 50 so I'll scour the net, but they are going to reverse image the photos. On line friendships sart on the presumption that at least one of you is lying, a few simple questions can save a lot of wasted time and effort.

Floridian · 70-79, F

@Johnblackthorn [quote]On line friendships start on the presumption that at least one of you is lying, a few simple questions can save a lot of waster time and effort.[/quote] Yes, this. But when do you decide that the person is NOT lying? For example, I say upfront that I'm 71 years old. I get DMs all the time asking how old I am. Why would anyone believe in DM what they don't believe otherwise?

SW-User

Same...

so what is your bank account number?

DRtist102 · 31-35, M

@SW-User yeah it’s I’m just waiting for that to be the next question. Lol

FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M

Yeah...don't pry.

ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

Just out of curiosity could you give me a couple of examples of what you consider normal stuff? You don't have to answer if you don't feel comfortable but I'm really struggling for what to say.

DRtist102 · 31-35, M

@ThePerfectUsername like interests and hobbies and stuff like that kind of more get to know them as who they they are and it like where do you live, when’s your birthday, what’s your phone number, again maybe I just don’t like those questions it makes it sound like you’re filling out an application for something not actually getting to know the person.

ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M

Maybe the social skills of the people you've come across so far aren't quite as mature as yours. It does seem a little shallow to ask trivial things now that I think about it but the digital age (smilies, filters, god knows what) has produced lots of youngsters who yearn for a close connection with someone but who aren't very adept at making one. @DRtist102

RadiantRuby

Of course before I met someone I'd wanna know a few things first, not meet a complete unknown creep

DRtist102 · 31-35, M

@RadiantRuby then just make small talk about interests and stuff like that don’t immediately start off asking stuff like you’re filling out an application or whatever.

RadiantRuby

@DRtist102 Does this happen every time? You meet someone, because these people sound boring

DRtist102 · 31-35, M

@RadiantRuby not all the time but more often than not. That’s the other thing too cuz I feel like that’s not really getting to know someone

trackman11 · 61-69, M

Ok. What is your social security number? Lol. Stop typing. Keep that to yourself. 🙂

DRtist102 · 31-35, M

@trackman11 I am starting to just not message them after like the first question.

trackman11 · 61-69, M

@DRtist102 I suspect that’s wise. Wait for a conversation you can value. 🙂

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