How does one become more grateful towards their partner?

I was emotionally abused by a close friend for many years and it has caused some pretty intense emotional scars. I am now finding it hard to be grateful and loving towards my loving and amazing boyfriend of almost 2 years. I love him so much and he treats me like an absolute princess and is so supportive of everything I do. He knows about my past and everything. But lately I’m having a hard time letting him in and being grateful for everything he does for me and I am feeling so guilty about it. But in the moment my irritation and insecurities take over and I can’t just say thank you. I have to get upset over something. I can’t keep hurting him like this even though he says he’s fine it is straining our relationship. Please if anyone has advice I am all ears.

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Kerrmit84 · 41-45, M

Its scary because in any relationship you have to open yourself up to the possibility of being hurt. Its normal for you to be pritecting your feelings but if you can relax your self a little at a time letting yourself feel the real relationship you will be able to move into a much more positive place

islandgirl55 · 26-30, F

@Kerrmit84 I do need to relax. We are both stressed right now because it is finals at the university, I lost my health insurance, I am leaving for a month next week, and we both have family drama. I am a keyed up person naturally, but you're right, I have to do something to relax cause this is ruining my relationship. He loves me, but there will be a breaking point eventually if I don't change.