Has anyone been in a long relationship with a narcissit?

I feel like I have ptsd after spliting with him. If you know any real narcs you might understand why. Ive been watching a few videos on you tube which really hoghlighted how much he sucked me in. I feel empty and confused angry to. What can i do to get over this?

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rottenrobi · 56-60, F Best Comment

I was in a relationship with one for 16 years. I felt the same way when I finally left. You will find yourself again. You will undo all the weird trips he put into your head. All you need is time. Life will get infinitely better and easier. I'm sure counseling would help, but I didn't go that route. I worked hard, kept myself busy, and I talked with friends.
I no longer hate him. I have a happy and nice life.
I promise, you will too.

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@rottenrobi Nice.

Ciaotutti · F

@rottenrobi Thank you that was a nice reply it gives me hope. Did you stop hating him because its a type of illness or for your own wellbeing. Maybe ill forgive in time but I doubt ill forget. I cant get my head around how long I was fooled 7 years. You stayed a long time to. So glad you are happy now. X

rottenrobi · 56-60, F

@Ciaotutti He wasn't terrible all the time, so I stayed. Its funny/not funny how I could justify and excuse his behavior for so long. Mine fucked with my head, and I felt stuck. I'm a strong woman, but.... anyways, yes, I'm glad we're both out. I stopped hating him because he has no power over me anymore, plus he's dying of liver problems.
You will never forget, that's impossible. You will start to care less and less. Your life will go on, and you'll be happy, which will make it easier to forgive him.
Message me anytime, if you ever need to talk. I truly do understand.

Ciaotutti · F

@rottenrobi Thanks so much it truly is bringing me down especially when I fit the pieces together.
Your right about him not being horrible all the time but that was always when things were going his way.
He was just so evil at the end i felt I never knew him. He went too far in his cruelty. 🥰 Ta

rottenrobi · 56-60, F

@Ciaotutti Everything you said is just like my ex. In the end, once he knew his antics weren't working anymore, is when he got heinous.
I noticed just how messed up things really were when I opened up to some friends. The looks on their faces told me how abnormal things had become. To me, it was normal.
Trust me, you will be happy again. Be careful with your next choice. I found I tend to migrate towards a certain personality that's not always healthy. I'm staying single now. Lol.

Ciaotutti · F

@rottenrobi I live alone and I dont like it Im so used yo being in a house full of people. Idk if ill meet someone but its better to be free from mind games lies etc.