Are childless couples selfish?

I have read that people who don't want children are inherently selfish. Either way it's a choice that people make as bringing up children is indeed very hard ! People make sacrifices to put their children first in mostly any decision. This is understandable but can also be considered a selfish choice as the childless person is free to do what they want without having to consider others, it maybe because the person is career minded or just not maternal or paternal. What do you think ?

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

It's ignorant to lump everyone together.

GardenSage · 36-40, M

It’s ignorant to attack generalizations as a way of invalidating truth. It’s the go-to play of the entire internet. It’d be impossible to list every caveat and detail and disclaimer when making a claim of observation. @MartinTheFirst

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@GardenSage Sometimes it alright but when it comes to judging people as selfish (a negative trait) then lumping everyone together isnt far from the reason why we hate racism.

GardenSage · 36-40, M

Well it’s actually literally selfish... by definition. Not that one should be offended by it... it’s completely justifiable and doesn’t really affect others.
But if it’s chosen, then it’s an action based on “self” @MartinTheFirst

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@GardenSage not necessarily

GardenSage · 36-40, M

@MartinTheFirst I cant see it any other way...?

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@GardenSage alright.... I for an example don't believe my children would have a good life since this world is so fucked up. It would occupy me and give me more reason to live but I don't want to put my own children through so much suffering that life brings. Hence I wait with it until either the world changes or it's too late.

GardenSage · 36-40, M

@MartinTheFirst it’s selfish to think your child will view life as cynically as you.
It’s also a selfish viewpoint to constantly see yourself as a sufferer or victim

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@GardenSage Nah, in a truely human sense none of that is selfish. However you can pick apart anything to be technically selfish if you really want to.

GardenSage · 36-40, M

@MartinTheFirst u see, it’s not about that. Your propensity to choose to be a victim dictates how you perceive your interactions with others.

You’re selfish and don’t even know it... convolutedly so.

It’s a spade.