Why do people get so butthurt about being put in the "friendzone"?

As someone who has both been friendzoned and has friendzoned others I can confidentially say, just because you're nice to someone doesn't mean they're obligated to have feelings for you. Just because you have feelings for someone who made it clear that they're just your friend, doesn't mean you can force them to reciprocate. Get over it and move on.

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Guys are generally groomed to be ignored. We don't really hear compliments. We don't get pats on the back. Nobody will listen if we're hurting. We go through life believing no one gives a damn about us. Whenever a girl shows attention or shows that she cares, that can mean the world to a guy that otherwise would never feel that. That's why it hurts when guys subsequently get rejected. It's basically disregarding some of the best feelings they've ever had. It may not have been the intention, but that's what the result is.

Girls are used to attention and compliments and interest. It tends to happen all the time for them. That's why being friendzoned doesn't suck as much for girls. You know that it's only a matter of time before someone else makes you feel nice.