How do you get a man to help pay your rent I’ve brought it up but he doesn’t seem to comprehend

I think by him knowing my finances he doesn’t think I need help but I’m not able to save money or do anything extra outside of my bills he pays the phone bill and internet which is $120 each month for both. I receive 1200 each month my rent is $300 I have a washer and dryer bill of 125 each month I have other things I need to pay that takes the rest of my money and here he gets to buy car parts and maybe buy little household needs that I need each month but I don’t feel it’s enough. He does side jobs and don’t work but he has hundreds of dollars every now and then all he does with his money is take it and fix his car to sell it. But I just don’t want to be wrong thinking or overthinking it What should I do ?

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

If you're living together, rather than keeping your finances separate, you need to combine them. People often don't like to do this, especially if they're not married or have a long-term commitment, but it's really the only way I've ever found to manage household finances. Money is pooled, bills get scheduled, both partners get an allowance. If there's a one-time expense or something that needs to be addressed, money for it gets put into its own little virtual envelope each month until it's ready. Emergencies come off the top.

If he's not willing to work with you on something like that, then he's just sponging off you and you should consider kicking him to the curb.