Question for married people?

Suppose you both give each other your partner top priority in your life. Will you eventually be happy and fulfilled?

Example of top priority :
1. Husband doesn't attent urgent work meeting because wife needs him.
2. Wife stops attending children because husband needs her

Stuff like that.

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

I would never even want to be married to a man who would expect me to put my kids ahead of him and I am mature enough to know that I’m unless I’m dying his work comes first. Anybody who needed my undivided attention and was needy like that wouldn’t make it past dating let alone marriage. Who gets my attention is based on availability and crisis level 😉.

AN1991 · 31-35, M

@Keepitsimple Very nicely said and I respect your opinion.

To continue the discussion further, I think we need to establish one thing. That is, husband in his 40s has his needs too.

It's terrible, in my humble opinion, to have an extreme opinion about children.

You had children with this very husband. So I think that he should come first, before children.

Of course it's very debatable and very controversial, kindly don't lash at me or bash me. Try to understand my side of argument as well.

It's one thing to disagree, it's another thing to judge me.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

I don’t judge you but I will only say this.i would divorce my husband instantly if he was that needy and selfish and expected me to put my kids to the side for him. I wouldn’t expect him to do that for me. Quite honestly I think this is a troll post or maybe you are very selfish and self absorbed. Children are always the priority. Period.@AN1991

AN1991 · 31-35, M

@Keepitsimple You said you won't judge me and you said I'm a troll and selfish, all in one post.

I will only say this. I think some people don't understand or appreciate the language of respect.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

It has to be. No sane person expects to be put in front of their kids or any kids and to have a good marriage.@AN1991