Inform him that you are not bf/gf until you say you are

You have a say in this, remember.

Only that from the beginning, he wanted to get into your pants.

That seems fast. You need some time to work out the separation/divorce before you jump into another relationship. If he's a good friend who wants to be more, he'll understand.

Yes babygirl you are missing something....the right to make your OWN CHOICE, if you submit to him. It is your life, and you need to take a couple steps back and decide what direction you want to take.. Get your ducks in a line before you make a bad choice or a choice you are not ready to make. Only YOU, are responsible FOR YOU!!

I'm a bit late to this party, but...

I see in the comments you effectively stood up to him and told him how things are. And you say things have been OK since then. I would advise you to continue to be careful, however. I fully expect he'll make another move, and his next move very well might be assault if you reject his advances.

Also, don't be shocked if he accuses you of "friend zoning" him. I would actually be shocked if he didn't do that at some point. If he does, there are only two valid choices (and you can give him both):

A. Fuck off

or

B. Maybe I friend zoned you, but you girlfriend zoned me first

Personally, I'd suggest B followed by A. But that's just me; maybe you're not as crass as I am. :)

Two words
Restraining Order

This happening to me right now.... !!
If your hubby is a good man.... dont dump him !...work it out.... !!

But if you've already moved on....you must let your hubby know soon....and be very kind and gentle when u break the news that you are over him !
Hug him...caress him...be nice.... and tell him you'll always be there... !

I have read this story twice now, but cant think of any reason why he could assume such a thing. Let him go unless you are dependant on his friendship.

dont think about what he wants. what do you want are you sure you are ready. If not then tell him you need more time. If he is a good man he will understand and wait. If not he will walk away and you will know

You definitely have a say so please don't let him set the rules. Friends ( with or without benefits) just don't make decisions about you or your life.

Well he should never presume for the both of you.

On the other hand, to be that controlling could be dangerous unless you like that of course

That’s fine I guess until you get heal emotionally and figure out what you do want which will not be him in the end when you’re stronger.

Yes.

He has just expressed his side of feeling based on both of ur behaviour...

I think u need to make it clear, that just hanging out with one another doesn't make u bf/gf.

....and this is not what you want from it???

when you feel that there is more than just friendship between you.And you want to be with them more than before

Communication is essential to any good relationship so he needs to be able to articulate his desires not make assumptions and jump the gun.

Sounds a pretty risky situation if you are going through a seperation

How did things develop with this "friend"? Could you convince him that you are not going to get into a bf/gf constellation?

His comment alone tells how he is thinking!!!

A memo.

Sounds like your "friend" has become rather possessive of you, possibly to the point of delusional.

Be careful for your safety.

well they have to want to be that with u if not. it will never happen at all. which in turn is a shame

How old is he? That sounds kind of high school ish. Plus he is being very aggressive. If that’s not what you want tell him now.

I don't know, has it been working out for you???

where are at with this now.

Your permission, consent, and opinion

I think he's got a screw loose somewhere, there are about 20 steps between where you are and where he thinks you are.

You are missing a lot. This is your time to be free and exploring. Dont let him put u in a cage

well you should be feeling what you really are. There is no sex. so you can be so close with your friend, you may like to spend time with him etc. but if you do not feel anything emotional or physical then he is just a friend :)

I hope you can set him straight and remain friends. It's a tricky thing

No enjoy each other even get naughty I'd he is the right one.. Life is short live it...😉

Seems like he's jumped the gun a bit! (Thanks for the Friend)

seems pretty controlling and one sided on his part .and very abrupt

Be nice to ask you!!

Big time hun , your jumping in to fast

Run !!!

you seems to be...

Yikes.

do you feel the same way....if not .step him back.

Run !!!

Run !

Hmmm, I would advise you to proceed with caution. To just announce he is now your boyfriend like that, could mean he is narcissistic and /or possessive. Set boundaries right away with this guy.

It does sound like one of you is. Did he not ask if you wanted to take your friendship to the next level?