Is it a bad idea to contact your ex to find out why they treated you poorly?

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firefall · 61-69, M

Generally they're not going to tell you the truth now if they hadn't earlier, and there's a substantial risk they'll lash out and say whats most hurtful to you, whether it has any relation to the truth or not

LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F

@firefall okay, I went ahead and got some hurtful remarks among other things

firefall · 61-69, M

@LoneGirl101 Sorry to hear that. Do you feel you understand why they acted the way they did?

LoneGirl101 · 31-35, F

@firefall yes.

firefall · 61-69, M

@LoneGirl101 Well, that's good ... some sense of completeness, at least.