Is it a bad idea to contact your ex to find out why they treated you poorly?

It’s natural to want to know why, but in that moment you have to ask yourself if you’re genuinely wanting to know why...or if you’re wanting to feel their presence again while waiting for an answer. Exes often come up in our mind when we’re feeling lonely or inner demons are speaking too loudly. If that’s the case, the pause button needs to be hit on that notion until more light has been given time to filter in. If it’s not the case, you have to think to the past and think forward of the repercussions that could unfold and decide if it’s worth opening a door that’s closed for a reason. Often times, it’s not worth it as it brings even more darkness and life to something that should be laid to rest, with or without knowing the reasoning. We’re an inquisitive species, but we have to remember more often than not people treat others poorly because of the mending they have yet to do within themselves...it has nothing to do with the person they’re projecting unkindness on.