My boyfriend has turned into a stoner, and I’m worried about him?
I still love my boyfriend, completely. He makes me so happy. All of the following is entirely legal. Please don’t suggest we break up. I haven’t confronted the issue yet, and this is a new one. He’s amazing.
Like, if we have an argument and he notices something he can do later to make me happy, he does it. He corrects his behaviour, he takes me out on dates, and he supports me.
But the last month has been really hard for me, battling some stuff, and him with financial problems. He had to move to a cheaper place further away, and has been working constantly. I’ve only seen him twice this month, instead of our normal 1-2 times a week. He’s also a sucky texter, so you can imagine things are a bit out of sync.
He’s not the same. I’m sure he’s putting the same effort in, just stressed and stuff, but with my stress it makes his effort hard to see sometimes. But....
He smokes weed nearly every day now. I have nothing against legal, recreational marijuana but I didn’t want to date a stoner either. I know he’s been extra stressed lately and that the weed helps, but he’s high a lot more and when he’s high he is so hard to talk to. I feel kind of left out at times, because I don’t smoke more than maybe three times a year, and he’s never asked me to smoke with him. His new roommate is partially to blame I’m sure- his roommate is high all the time.
I know my boyfriend is a responsible adult but he’s high so much now. I didn’t sign up for this and I don’t know how to confront it, or what to do. I love him but... I don’t believe in getting high every day. If he’s having issues I don’t want it to become an abuse habit or escape either... i want someone motivated, and I’m worried he has/will lose his motivation. For a while there he was so focused on bettering himself, that feels lost now.
Above all, I’m worried about him. While I do mention my beliefs, I’m worried about him and his long term happiness. I’m worried about him developing a dependence on weed, prioritizing it, and losing his shot at a better career, education, et cetera... all of which he wants.
Obviously I love him but I’m also trying to protect him. I’m not sure if I should say anything yet. All I’ve told him is that he’s hard to talk to when he’s high.
Like, if we have an argument and he notices something he can do later to make me happy, he does it. He corrects his behaviour, he takes me out on dates, and he supports me.
But the last month has been really hard for me, battling some stuff, and him with financial problems. He had to move to a cheaper place further away, and has been working constantly. I’ve only seen him twice this month, instead of our normal 1-2 times a week. He’s also a sucky texter, so you can imagine things are a bit out of sync.
He’s not the same. I’m sure he’s putting the same effort in, just stressed and stuff, but with my stress it makes his effort hard to see sometimes. But....
He smokes weed nearly every day now. I have nothing against legal, recreational marijuana but I didn’t want to date a stoner either. I know he’s been extra stressed lately and that the weed helps, but he’s high a lot more and when he’s high he is so hard to talk to. I feel kind of left out at times, because I don’t smoke more than maybe three times a year, and he’s never asked me to smoke with him. His new roommate is partially to blame I’m sure- his roommate is high all the time.
I know my boyfriend is a responsible adult but he’s high so much now. I didn’t sign up for this and I don’t know how to confront it, or what to do. I love him but... I don’t believe in getting high every day. If he’s having issues I don’t want it to become an abuse habit or escape either... i want someone motivated, and I’m worried he has/will lose his motivation. For a while there he was so focused on bettering himself, that feels lost now.
Above all, I’m worried about him. While I do mention my beliefs, I’m worried about him and his long term happiness. I’m worried about him developing a dependence on weed, prioritizing it, and losing his shot at a better career, education, et cetera... all of which he wants.
Obviously I love him but I’m also trying to protect him. I’m not sure if I should say anything yet. All I’ve told him is that he’s hard to talk to when he’s high.
22-25, F
