Lack of experience

I’m so irritated and insecure with my lack of experience in my love life. I’m literally 20 years old and still have done or had anything with anyone. It makes me feel invalid, small, and stupid. I’m almost desperate to get more experience. I hate playing the waiting game. I hate all the “love will come when it’s your time.”’s and “you just haven’t found the right one.”’s yet. I need to get experienced NOW. This is so ridiculous. No one is gonna want the 40 year old virgin. Experience is attractive. Being Inexperienced is a burden. No one likes you when you’re a lame virgin.

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infiniterealism · 56-60, M

You are way too young to be worried about that. You shouldn't worry about being a virgin lol. Women are not under pressure to loose their virginity. It is men that looks down on each other for not loosing their virginity early. Besides it is not quantity that matters it is quality that is most important. The fact that you've waited is an indication that there is something special about you and your experiences will be far more intense and satisfying than the people who jump into almost random sexual experiences with too many people. For the people who have too many sex with too many people at a young age sex becomes meaningless and boring and eventually no relationship is special.

FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M

@infiniterealism great response!!!!!

infiniterealism · 56-60, M

@FORMERLYbatovn Thank you Sir.

Sb356 · 26-30, F

I feel so shitty like honestly I’m so sick. I almost wanna wish bad things in happy couples cause I’m so jealous but I have morals and am trying to be a better person each day so I won’t....it’s just not fair I feel like she seeinf everyone else so happy and being left out wondering where my other half is. Like okay I guess no one likes me and I’m not like able.@infiniterealism

FORMERLYbatovn · 56-60, M

@Sb356 You appear by your words very likeable and just not understanding what the "problem" is....I see that as intelligent and in reality, I see that as someone who would rather really wait then make what could be a huge mistake. I know its frustrating.....i didnt date til i was 25 and next week we celebrate 30 yrs of marriage....meanwhile so many people around us are miserable or divorced .....happiness....TRUE happiness cannot be forced or rushed. someday youll be the one people are jealous of.....

infiniterealism · 56-60, M

@FORMERLYbatovn I totally agree but unfortunately she doesn't realize that right now. I've been married for 30 years as well and I dated late too and not many people.