Would you marry a man/ woman with children in the past relationships?

I have a sister and she has a boyfriend (her first bf). They are like 2 years together now and physically away from each other right now. (She's in the UK and guy is from somewhere).She has a "motive" of getting married to his boyfriend although he already has a child from past relationship. As a woman, would you still marry a guy who already made some girl pregnant?

Add ons: My sis is actually doing good in life now (like financially), while the guy is not. Im just worried he might just be using her or something? I know I sound paranoid, but it's her first bf that's why she's crazy about it, but still, how do I make sure? She swears she will support our parents, but when she gets married, I dont think that would be the case. She's 24 and the guy is 29 I think.

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SW-User

Based on my past life experience, I would not advise it. At such a young age, why not start with a clean slate. There will be enough baggage in life without picking up someone else's to start the journey.

fruitspunch · 31-35, F

Thanks. Those are the thoughts that I have as well. I just don't want her to change her priorities that she have dreamed of ever since she was a kid. And with the things right now, I'm worried that she would change all of it just for one guy she is crazy about. I just don't want her to make a bad choice in her life.

SW-User

Why would she have to support your parents?
I suppose it's hard to look on but you really need to let her make her own choices. Taking on stepchildren is a challenge but can be a rewarding one.

fruitspunch · 31-35, F

well what I can tell you is as Asian, we tend to pay gratitude to our parents as soon as we get successful in life, say, reward our parents and support them when we get a job. I do support my parents as well and try to give them everything, and me and my sister are a team on that. Back then, my sister and I pledged to give our family the best life we can, and now her desires are completely different. Plus, she had dreams that she doesnt like to achieve anymore just because of this guy. See, it's her first bf so that's why she tends to make her bf look greater than he really is. She just orders him what to do and he does and goes with it. To be fair, I'm not trying to be rude to the guy but he just had a lot of experiences with women and my sister has none. Im just worried that if he secures her through marriage, things will become way too different. Like he may use my sister to secure his family and all that. I know Im paranoid but I love my sister that's why it worries me that she would make the worst choice of her life.

katielass · F

If you love someone it shouldn't matter that he "made someone else pregnant". Unless you marry a virgin (and who would) he's been with someone and you're gonna have to deal with that.

SW-User

yes

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