Devastated and angry

I did wrong by cheating on my husband last year. We split and both of us have new partners. (I stayed with my affair partner). Today my son told me that there was a card (We had fathers day in the uk) from my ex's girlfriend. It said on the front 'Dad, You're the best mum 'And inside it said 'To Jon, No words needed. I love you so much. Maddie xxx
I am devastated and angry that she would take it upon herself to do this. How would you approach it?

She meant that I am a crap mum and my ex fulfils the role of both parents as he is so wonderful 😐

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samanthasmokes · 36-40, F

@Jenni855
This may be difficult to hear but I'll share it anyway. It's time to put to bed the anger, the resentment, and possibly, the jealousy. Your kid needs adults who love him and who are examples of forgiveness and generosity. Best way I can think of this is to assure him that you love him and that he so very deserving of the love of others that come into his life.

And this includes, hard though it may be to swallow, this extends to your ex and his GF as well.

Jenni855 · 36-40, F

@samanthasmokes How can I be okay with his girlfriend doing this to me and leaving the card within my sons reach?

samanthasmokes · 36-40, F

@Jenni855 I grant you're not OK with it and you're pissed.

So throw some gas on the fire, start a war, show that bitch some righteous payback.

OR ....

you can rise above it.

In either choice you're giving your son an example how adults handle conflict and anger.