Do you have a pre date checklist for yourself or your date? Part of mine is listed below.

1. Are you truly available to date a few times a week?
2. Are you mentally emotionally and physically stable and in a good place?
3. Do you know what you desire in a partner?
4. What are the absolute deal breakers?
5. Do I have an exit plan if things are not going well?

Tell me what you think.

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Anonymartyr · M

These days they are all deal breakers who aren't even worth a 1-night stand.

Capt11 · 51-55, M

@Anonymartyr I am sorry that you feel that way. I do appreciate you taking the time to respond. I hope you have an amazing day.

Anonymartyr · M

@Capt11 things can only get so good when you are crippled and stuck in bed. this site, my cat and pretty soon paralysis from spinal damage will be all I will ever have.

Capt11 · 51-55, M

@Anonymartyr What I am about to say may seem very cruel but I am going to be honest. Life is not always good but you can make it what you choose to make it. You have some unique circumstances but your life is not over. I have a friend who is disabled. He has won 3 fantasy football leagues in 5 years. He has organized several motorcycle rides for disabled people and he lives a full life. You make choices and you adjust to your circumstances. I wish you the best and it is unfortunate that you are facing many obstacles. As a Marine I do not see victims I only see survivors.

Anonymartyr · M

@Capt11 I did not choose to be a deformed cripple, nor did I choose for the world to be so shallow as to avoid people based solely because of a hunched back. I was rejected by my relatives at birth- my parents were exiled from their families. Being stuck in bed, alone for 4/5ths of your time, how would you choose to make better of it? I advocate for the poor and homeless in my community and have had some successes in improving the system, voluntarily. That at least gives me some purpose while I wait for total paralysis, if homelessness doesn't take me first as rent requires two people to pay and my subsidies run out in a few years. All I can do is take in a local hooker or crack addict to share a bedroom with.

Capt11 · 51-55, M

@Anonymartyr I know you may not take me seriously but if you need something and I can give it please let me know.

Anonymartyr · M

@Capt11 What I need most is someone who can live here, share rent and help with housework that I cannot do probably someone with some experience as a nurse. I will need the other room to grow my own medication as there is no coverage for any of my medications and are way beyond most people's ability to pay- $2200/ 28 day supply (American currency) my entire income is only $1000/mo with rent taking up $750 and utilities taking up another $200 and the rest is on food- not enough.