If you started dating again & were on dating apps, would you prefer to talk on the phone first before meeting irl or just go from texting to meeting?
Personally, Iโd prefer to talk on the phone first if they were willing to as well. Iโd rather know beforehand if they can carry a conversation than having an awkward in person meeting that would just be a waste of my time & effort.
Lol, itโs going to be awkward regardless in my opinion, because youโre meeting for the first time. When I met people from dating apps we never spoke on the phone first, just texted for maybe about a week or so, and then met. All except one of the first dates were actually nice. The last one I went on was cringy, and odd for some reason, I donโt think we spoke enough before meeting and I also donโt think it was what either of us wanted. The first date we went out to eat and shared an apple pie after dinner for dessert, he was really nice, was an engineer, and really made an effort. Our second date was really fun we had a picnic at the park, listen to each otherโs music and drew each other a photo. We dated for like 3 months, but I wasnโt feeling it :/ sadly, i wish I was because he was a nice guy. We ended on good terms though, and he ended up finding someone else. Idk if theyโre still together, weโre Facebook friends, but he doesnโt post that much. The next guy was very socialable so it wasnโt awkward at all actually, he was also charming, but he had a kid he didnโt tell me about. ๐จ๐ฑ he โaccidentallyโ mentioned it when we were talking at dinner. It was awkward because I donโt really like kids or even want them now. So that didnโt last long. ๐คฃ The other guy was really sweet and quirky, we dated for about a month, but we were on completely different paths in life. He was also doing really terrible financially due to him going to college for art, he was in so much debt, and barely made any money to survive, and was almost 30 also smoked a lot of weed. ๐ฌHe was sweet though, we still became friends even though it didnโt go anywhere. Stayed in contact and follow each other on social media. I think those were all the online dates I went on. ๐คฃ I think online dating really gave me a lot of experience in dating, helped me learn what I do and donโt want and I had so many funny/odd memories. Iโm over it now, but Iโm glad I tried it out. It was a cool experience.
@abe182 Yeah, I donโt do well on FaceTime/video cam thatโs awkward af to me. Lol, I think itโs just easier to meet and move on if you donโt get a good vibe from it.
Iโm not a big texting fan....but I guess you need to start somewhere. Iโd definitely like to talk on the phone before meeting someone for the first time....you can tell a lot more from a personโs voice than you can from simply reading typed words....though typed words are still a lot better than nothing/totally blind date (and I say that despite having met my wife on a blind date).
I agree.... But after being married 13 years I think I'd just want to date myself and enjoy the rest of my life having a great time and have no ties! Couldn't go through that dating malarkey again, Jaaaaaaazzzzzus! ๐๐๐๐คช
Email, then real-time chat, voice calls/Skype (not my cellphone), and if we build friendship and I feel I could trust the person, then meet for coffee or lunch.
*Have not had any experience on a dating site, but I would most likely follow the same progression. My answers were based on how Ive met and have built genuine friendships with people from a EP and SW.
Iโd be okay with texting then meeting. It seems a common way to do things. Besides, itโs just meeting. Itโs not like introducing them to the royal family. If thereโs no connection, then end politely and move on.
I met my guy online. We went from texting, to talking on the phone within just a few days. He was working up north though, and we didn't actually meet for nearly a month. I was grateful for the talking. I fell in love with his voice first. ๐
tbf Iโd wanna have hour long calls/texts/video chats and know all his different viewpoints on stuff and take enough personality quizzes with him before meeting up
I think I would need to hear his voice and get my friend to do a nice background check on him before meeting. Thank God I don't need dating sites anymore and hope i never do again.
@marsbar Giggles. They watch out for me, but online isn't my thing. I need a voice, a scent, a touch, a reality. I can't sit around just pming someone and find a connection. I need real conversation with a deep voice. :)
Lol. I think that wouldโve helped A LOT of teens. @SW-User
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@marsbar I know right, home economics taught me how to put a bun in the oven where as dating 101 would have taught me how to prevent one from happening while still getting my loaf to rise without having to have much dough. I love these cooking analogies ๐
@marsbar It's a "safe" spot, and provides an opportunity to walk out, 10 minutes into it, as opposed to a dinner, where you can't get out of a couple of hours or ordering, waiting, eating a full meal.