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If you started dating again & were on dating apps, would you prefer to talk on the phone first before meeting irl or just go from texting to meeting?

Personally, Iโ€™d prefer to talk on the phone first if they were willing to as well. Iโ€™d rather know beforehand if they can carry a conversation than having an awkward in person meeting that would just be a waste of my time & effort.
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Lol, itโ€™s going to be awkward regardless in my opinion, because youโ€™re meeting for the first time. When I met people from dating apps we never spoke on the phone first, just texted for maybe about a week or so, and then met. All except one of the first dates were actually nice. The last one I went on was cringy, and odd for some reason, I donโ€™t think we spoke enough before meeting and I also donโ€™t think it was what either of us wanted. The first date we went out to eat and shared an apple pie after dinner for dessert, he was really nice, was an engineer, and really made an effort. Our second date was really fun we had a picnic at the park, listen to each otherโ€™s music and drew each other a photo. We dated for like 3 months, but I wasnโ€™t feeling it :/ sadly, i wish I was because he was a nice guy. We ended on good terms though, and he ended up finding someone else. Idk if theyโ€™re still together, weโ€™re Facebook friends, but he doesnโ€™t post that much. The next guy was very socialable so it wasnโ€™t awkward at all actually, he was also charming, but he had a kid he didnโ€™t tell me about. ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฑ he โ€œaccidentallyโ€ mentioned it when we were talking at dinner. It was awkward because I donโ€™t really like kids or even want them now. So that didnโ€™t last long. ๐Ÿคฃ The other guy was really sweet and quirky, we dated for about a month, but we were on completely different paths in life. He was also doing really terrible financially due to him going to college for art, he was in so much debt, and barely made any money to survive, and was almost 30 also smoked a lot of weed. ๐Ÿ˜ฌHe was sweet though, we still became friends even though it didnโ€™t go anywhere. Stayed in contact and follow each other on social media. I think those were all the online dates I went on. ๐Ÿคฃ I think online dating really gave me a lot of experience in dating, helped me learn what I do and donโ€™t want and I had so many funny/odd memories. Iโ€™m over it now, but Iโ€™m glad I tried it out. It was a cool experience.
@abe182 Yeah, I donโ€™t do well on FaceTime/video cam thatโ€™s awkward af to me. Lol, I think itโ€™s just easier to meet and move on if you donโ€™t get a good vibe from it.
marsbar ยท F
โ˜บ๏ธโ˜บ๏ธ@Stark
SW-User
@Stark Thanks for sharing that, it helps hearing others experiences like this.
SW-User
I'm becoming an expert. Text, talk, then meet. Then start over.
SW-User
@abe182 I feel the sympathy from here. Lol
marsbar ยท F
Bravo! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ Lol @SW-User
abe182 ยท 51-55, M
@SW-User yep!
DragonFruit ยท 70-79, M
Iโ€™m not a big texting fan....but I guess you need to start somewhere.
Iโ€™d definitely like to talk on the phone before meeting someone for the first time....you can tell a lot more from a personโ€™s voice than you can from simply reading typed words....though typed words are still a lot better than nothing/totally blind date (and I say that despite having met my wife on a blind date).
marsbar ยท F
I donโ€™t think I could go on a blind date, but Iโ€™m glad it worked out for you! ๐Ÿ˜€@DragonFruit
Definitely messaging, to talk. Then Skype or video chat at least 5-6 times, then agree to meet over coffee. ๐Ÿ˜‰
abe182 ยท 51-55, M
Thanks @Vivaci ๐Ÿป
@abe182 ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ‘
marsbar ยท F
I agree! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ@Vivaci
Dusty101 ยท F
I agree....
But after being married 13 years I think I'd just want to date myself and enjoy the rest of my life having a great time and have no ties!
Couldn't go through that dating malarkey again,
Jaaaaaaazzzzzus!
๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿคช
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜…@Dusty101

Sounds like a plan too! lol
SW-User
A few calls first, if only to have short awkward time and get comfortable talking to that person...and also to ask why she sounds like Barry White...
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜†@SW-User
JoyfulSilence ยท 51-55, M
Are you looking for a date?
marsbar ยท F
Nah. Lol @JoyfulSilence
JoyfulSilence ยท 51-55, M
@marsbar Ok then, maybe the ladies will?

Just bake some goodies and we all will!
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜‚@JoyfulSilence
CookieCrumbs ยท F
Email, then real-time chat, voice calls/Skype (not my cellphone), and if we build friendship and I feel I could trust the person, then meet for coffee or lunch.

*Have not had any experience on a dating site, but I would most likely follow the same progression. My answers were based on how Ive met and have built genuine friendships with people from a EP and SW.
marsbar ยท F
Thanks for your comment ๐Ÿ˜@CookieCrumbs
BigRyanD ยท 31-35, M
I always go from text to phone call first
BigRyanD ยท 31-35, M
@marsbar Then I guess my height and other things can come across as intimidating as well
marsbar ยท F
Yes, โ€œother thingsโ€ ๐Ÿคญ@BigRyanD
BigRyanD ยท 31-35, M
@marsbar ahaha... ๐Ÿ˜…
brian29715 ยท 51-55, M
Iโ€™d be okay with texting then meeting. It seems a common way to do things. Besides, itโ€™s just meeting. Itโ€™s not like introducing them to the royal family. If thereโ€™s no connection, then end politely and move on.
marsbar ยท F
Iโ€™d rather be sure I REALLY wanted to meet them first @brian29715
brian29715 ยท 51-55, M
@marsbar thatโ€™s true as well.
ImpeccablyImperfect ยท 56-60, F
I met my guy online. We went from texting, to talking on the phone within just a few days. He was working up north though, and we didn't actually meet for nearly a month. I was grateful for the talking. I fell in love with his voice first. ๐Ÿ˜Š
marsbar ยท F
Awww sweet! โ˜บ๏ธ@ImpeccablyImperfect
SW-User
tbf Iโ€™d wanna have hour long calls/texts/video chats and know all his different viewpoints on stuff and take enough personality quizzes with him before meeting up
marsbar ยท F
Quizzes?? So thorough! ๐Ÿ˜@SW-User
SW-User
@marsbar its so addictive as well ๐Ÿคฃ
marsbar ยท F
I bet. Lol @SW-User
samanthasmokes ยท 41-45, F
vid chat first is my preference, letter is a close second.
marsbar ยท F
I agree. I do like seeing penmanship as well. Itโ€™s a lost art form. @samanthasmokes
samanthasmokes ยท 41-45, F
@marsbar ๐Ÿ‘๏ธ
Pherick ยท 46-50, M
@samanthasmokes I have actually wondered if there is a place to find a "pen pal" someone to actually trade real letters with these days.

Seems like a lost art.
Fungirlmmm ยท 51-55, F
I think I would need to hear his voice and get my friend to do a nice background check on him before meeting. Thank God I don't need dating sites anymore and hope i never do again.
marsbar ยท F
Good youโ€™ve got friends like that ๐Ÿ˜‡@Fungirlmmm
Fungirlmmm ยท 51-55, F
@marsbar Giggles. They watch out for me, but online isn't my thing. I need a voice, a scent, a touch, a reality. I can't sit around just pming someone and find a connection. I need real conversation with a deep voice. :)
marsbar ยท F
Yes, I agree :) @Fungirlmmm
SailorMarz ยท F
I like the classic, start from texting and then building your way up to phone calls lol
marsbar ยท F
Yes. Texting, then phone calls, then video chatting, & then meet in person ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ@SailorMarz
SailorMarz ยท F
@marsbar video chatting...hmm
marsbar ยท F
Yesss ๐Ÿ˜Œ@SailorMarz
Diesel95 ยท 41-45, MVIP
Honestly I learned very recently to go in stages including at least one video chat
marsbar ยท F
Diesel95 ยท 41-45, MVIP
@marsbar Thanks it's good to be back here
marsbar ยท F
SW-User
I'd prefer just to text first but then i have little experience at dating.
marsbar ยท F
Lol. I think that wouldโ€™ve helped A LOT of teens. @SW-User
SW-User
@marsbar I know right, home economics taught me how to put a bun in the oven where as dating 101 would have taught me how to prevent one from happening while still getting my loaf to rise without having to have much dough. I love these cooking analogies ๐Ÿ˜‚
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ@SW-User
SweetMae ยท 70-79, F
I agree with you. Why waste time.
marsbar ยท F
โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@SweetMae
beastmaster ยท 51-55, M
I hate texting so prefer talking. However, most dates love my voice, but get disappointed when meeting๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™‚๏ธ
marsbar ยท F
I don't have a cell phone. Could you rephrase the question to make it applicable to me? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜
marsbar ยท F
@FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays You can still Skype on a computer.

And how in the hell can you not have a cell? ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜„
@marsbar I'm a 20th century kind of guy. ๐Ÿ˜
marsbar ยท F
Sure i would talk on the phone
@marsbar haha youre nice. You look lovely
marsbar ยท F
Thank you ๐Ÿ˜‡@TimingQuasars
@marsbar Youre always welcome hahah
GBPackersFan ยท M
Talking on the phone . Some people just want to text I find it boring. You can say a whole lot more in a much shorter time chatting away on the tele.
marsbar ยท F
I agree! @GBPackersFan
GBPackersFan ยท M
Good then youโ€™re old school like me ๐Ÿ˜‚@marsbar
marsbar ยท F
Uh huh ๐Ÿ˜@GBPackersFan
Selah ยท
Are you dating
marsbar ยท F
Not yet but in the future, yes @Selah
DayDreaming2 ยท F
Talk on the phone before we meet. It would help eliminate wasted time and a sexy voice is important.
marsbar ยท F
Heehee. Yeah, a sexy voice is nice ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜@DayDreaming2
abe182 ยท 51-55, M
But people don't like phones. I don't. And I can't tell if there's chemistry on the phone.
marsbar ยท F
But you can tell if the conversation is flowing ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ@abe182
abe182 ยท 51-55, M
@marsbar conversation flowing isn't a big concern of mine. Chemistry, attractiveness and how big their heart is.
marsbar ยท F
Yes, but I believe you can discover that on the phone as well, especially video calls @abe182
Northwest ยท M
I prefer talking, and if that works out, meet in a public place, like Starbucks.
marsbar ยท F
Yes, somewhere neutral & not too expensive @Northwest
Northwest ยท M
@marsbar It's a "safe" spot, and provides an opportunity to walk out, 10 minutes into it, as opposed to a dinner, where you can't get out of a couple of hours or ordering, waiting, eating a full meal.
marsbar ยท F
Yes! @Northwest
booboo ยท M
but you'd get a free meal out of it, so it wouldn't be a total waste...
marsbar ยท F
Of course! Who wants a free meal if itโ€™s a cringey date? Lol @booboo
booboo ยท M
@marsbar well, good question... but i think some women have done just that..
marsbar ยท F
I donโ€™t doubt it. Lol @booboo
midnightsun ยท 26-30, M
Both are fine

I have low expectations anyways.

Actually I'm on dating apps now
marsbar ยท F
Yes, I saw your Tinder post. Lol @midnightsun
midnightsun ยท 26-30, M
@marsbar ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜„@midnightsun
JohnOinger ยท 41-45, M
@marsbar So what do you think of Jason Voorhees & Would You Do Him
marsbar ยท F
No thank you ๐Ÿ˜…@JohnOinger
JohnOinger ยท 41-45, M
@marsbar ๐Ÿ˜‚ lol does he scare you
marsbar ยท F
Maybe a little. Lol @JohnOinger
Muthafukajones ยท 46-50, M
Seeing a picture first is better. Some texting to see if theyโ€™re normal. Then a call or two maybe a video chat.
marsbar ยท F
Well on dating sites, thereโ€™s usually a pic there along with some general info. @Muthafukajones
SW-User
I'd rather talk on the phone and on camera before hand for at least a few weeks, honestly.
marsbar ยท F
Yes, same @SW-User
GeorgeTBH ยท 36-40, M
๐Ÿ˜ฑ you are not on tinder are you
marsbar ยท F
I would think video would be more awkward ๐Ÿค”@GeorgeTBH
GeorgeTBH ยท 36-40, M
@marsbar personally speaking i would rather video chat then talk on the phone but that is just me
marsbar ยท F
Everyoneโ€™s different. Itโ€™s whatever is more comfortable for you. :) @GeorgeTBH
Reject ยท 31-35, M
You're so good at carrying conversations though! It's pretty amazing. Probably my favorite thing about you.
marsbar ยท F
Thanks ๐Ÿค—@Reject
mrmoose ยท 70-79, M
talk, although I did go meet someone from EP without talking
marsbar ยท F
Hope it went well! @mrmoose
mrmoose ยท 70-79, M
@marsbar I went from Omaha, Nebraska to Sydney Australia, lived with her till the government refused to renew my visa
marsbar ยท F
Oh wow! @mrmoose
GJOFJ3 ยท 61-69, M
I'd have to phone first for sure, I can tell a lot from someone's voice
marsbar ยท F
Yes, me too @GJOFJ3
Viqsteels ยท 26-30, F
Well, I have always wanted a phone conversation but the prefer texting
marsbar ยท F
Most of the younger generation prefer texting it seems @Viqsteels
Degbeme ยท 70-79, M
Learn how to install the app first. ๐Ÿค” ๐Ÿ˜ฌ
marsbar ยท F
No apps are installed at the present time. Lol @Degbeme
Degbeme ยท 70-79, M
@marsbar ๐Ÿ˜…
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿคญ@Degbeme
SW-User
This has put me offdating sites for as long as I live.
marsbar ยท F
Good lord. Lol @SW-User
SW-User
Iโ€™ll never look at an eggplant the same again ๐Ÿ˜ฅ@marsbar
marsbar ยท F
But so many people on here use that too ๐Ÿ˜…@SW-User
guymanly2 ยท 31-35, M
Text, then call or video chat, then date. Always
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@guymanly2
guymanly2 ยท 31-35, M
๐ŸคŸ๐Ÿฝ@marsbar
Uncle ยท 51-55, M
I like the way Skype works with that, actually.
marsbar ยท F
Yes ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@Uncle
Synyster ยท 51-55, M
Exactly what you said. I want to hear her voice.
marsbar ยท F
Voices are nice to hear ๐Ÿ˜Œ@Synyster
Cantsayno ยท 56-60, M
Iโ€™d rather Skype so I know exactly who Iโ€™m meeting.
marsbar ยท F
UserNameSW ยท 46-50, M
A phone call would be a bonus
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@UserNameSW
St0ut ยท 56-60, M
You forget the critical step of :

marsbar ยท F
Lol @St0ut
SW-User
Note to self: Stay tf away from dating.
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜‚@SW-User
I'd meet them anyways. Never know what they're like in person, but a via voice first would be a good idea.

Imagine they had a voice like a prepubescent teen ๐Ÿ˜‚
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜‚ Thatโ€™d be a turn off @Teggy

Weโ€™ll meet one day Tegs ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜
@marsbar you've heard my voice before on vocaroo haven't you?
marsbar ยท F
Yes ๐Ÿ˜Œ@Teggy
Spoiledbrat ยท F
Skype or video chat.
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@Spoiledbrat
Straylight ยท F
Eh, I'm done dating. I'd just become a hermit.
marsbar ยท F
Lol. No need for dating anymore ๐Ÿ˜‰@Straylight
PTCdresser57 ยท 61-69, M
So agree with you Mars. Need that chit chat first
marsbar ยท F
๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ@PTCdresser57
Shutterbug ยท 56-60, M
You can always post ther profiles here and we will let you know if they are creepy or not!!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
marsbar ยท F
Good idea!! ๐Ÿ˜†@Shutterbug

 
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