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Boyfriend won’t buy me jewellery

Should I be worried a year ago my boyfriend got me a pair of ear rings I lost one of the pins from the back of the earring . And because I lost that ear ring he won’t get me any Jewellery, I do tend to lose things with my memory, he is kind and loving and giving in other ways but he insisted on not getting me any, for occasions x he get me other things I llike Xbox games for my birthday or other stuff but one thing don’t think he got over for me losing my ear ring unsure why?
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
I am not into jewelry ,,for one thing I am not letting a jewelry store bait me into feeling like garbage if I don't run out and buy jewelry every holiday
I have run several pawn shops and I know diamond retain and gain in value ,they are almost indestructible with normal care ,can be passed on to loved ones as family heirloom's
But I am not into jewelry ,and my women know that right up front
So I can get his point ,,if I spent a lot of money on something and mainly from carelessness you lost or damaged it
I would be more apt to get you things that say I love you just as much ,but not jewelry
As a rule my women only dolled up to go out ..
I get them things they only share with me
Not saying I won't spend hundreds on a dress (no way in hell I am spending thousands on a dress I don't care who made it )
But I will show her in lasting ways how much I love her
if she thinks I have to do it with jewelry ,,she more then likely won't stay with me
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
[@ I do understand what your saying but I would understand if it was expensive jewelry which it wasn’t not fussed with clothes to be honest t shirt and jeans do me lol computer games for more then clothes haha he does get me computer game we play together which we do enjoy, I never ask for much at tall really, guess I would like somthing I can wear or take around when I don’t see him at times, like have a piece of him as I do my own thing
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Jadetherabbit I used to love to buy my wife dresses that were hundreds of dollars (I don't care how well off we were .I am neven paying thousands on a dress ,but she would take them back and get 3 dresses with the money and I would have been ok with that ,but it was all about she thought I spent to much money on one dress ,,Pink Ice ,she would take it back I would buy white roses (long stem ) have them sprayed on the tops with her favorite color (purple or lavender) and she would bitch me out for spending so much money on her so I stopped ,,it wasn't I didn't care
I worked with a bad back to pay off our home and our cars and everything we owned ,,I was only making payments on my back surgery
And she bitched all I did was worked
Our home was just paid for ,all our toys were finally paid for ,,and just when I can finally enjoy the fruits of my labor she leaves me .she was tired of being alone
and my doctor told her nothing was wrong with me ,she was tired of living with some one who lived off of drugs
The found the reason my arm was paralyzed after she left me ,,it was not in my head ,it was not to try and get drugs ,I was in severe pain and NO ONE believed me
After she left I was finally awarded my disability

So I have come to the conclusion I am just damed if I do
damned if I don't

We could have finally enjoyed our life ,she gave up on me way to soon ,,and her leaving destroyed who I was
She had our home ,our 401-K ,my tax returns for the year
she sold my classic Mustang
I ended up homeless ,,starting over from scratch
disabled ,and not even knowing who I was anymore
She was what I lived for
Now that I understand women better ,,I am to old to care
I wasted enough of my life trying to make others happy
Now the only thing I have that shows for it that matters are my kids and grandkids ,,,they never give up on me
Everything else is just stuff ,,
Everything else I can replace ,,I can't replace that kind of love ,sometimes we need to loose it all
So we can get our priorities in order and see what really matters ,what really lasts
Loosing someone you love more then life is a big eye opener
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
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Agree it more important to love then to worry about material things am not normally materialistic to be honest , I love walks being outdoors and playing computer games and drawing are my hobbies, I Am sorry to hear that happened to you I would of been grateful for whatever dress I got and keep it not swap it that’s just rude she sounds like she was hard work Yeah lucky am not keen on dresses or too fussed with that stuff haha but would of been grateful my bf thought of me and what I would like even if it was socks or a cheap somthing I can wear to me it’s values more and would mean more to me then food and I can keep it forever lol x you are right maybe I shouldn’t be worrying about it just be happy I got my BF just enjoy our life together and he does do long hours at times
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Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@rckt148 commutation understanding about things are important she wasn’t commcating with you about what she wanted, am guessing she complaining lot then both of you had. Then Chatting about it to find common ground make your feelings known and hers,