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Guy wants to hold on to two girls

Hey. I need insight/advice.
I used to be involved with a guy for 1,5 years. We agreed to be friends when one of us met someone and we would break things off.
He did something stupid though, he lied to his new girl and said he hadn't been involved with someone for 1 year. When he ended up telling her the truth, he had to delete me from Facebook to prove to her that she didn't have to worry. Which means he lied again, because his plan was to be my friend again. He called me to probably expect that I'd either wait for him while he was "not being my friend" to that girl, or he expected that we would sneak around behind her back, which is so stupid because he isn't able to be dishonest for long, he always has to come clean eventually.
I tried to cut him off when I found this out, because I knew she wouldn't be ok with us being friends, and I know he will pick her. But then I wasn't able to cut him out longer, I asked him to fix this.
But there's probably no chance he will be able to have her be ok with our friendship. He is really smart but he makes such stupid choices. On the phone he was really trying to not loose me and said he would try to talk to her. But honestly, he won't be able to fix this. He's made it so we would never be able to be friends and her ok with it. Am I right or wrong? I'm really emotionally affected so I don't know if I'm thinking of all the options. Anyone , any advice please.
SweetMae ยท 70-79, F
Why be friends with a liar and a cheater? You deserve better.
MrBrownstone ยท 46-50, M
@SweetMae Listen to her!
Carole314159 ยท 41-45, F
Ask yourself if you are ok with this. If you are the continue on and enjoy! If not, run away. That has always been my mantra.

If you do stay tell him there is no need for lying to you. (What he does with her is up to him). Be open and honest with each other, And that includes you saying how you are feeling.
QueenPeach ยท 26-30, F
Why canโ€™t you just move on? He cheated on you and picked the new girl over you. Whatโ€™s the point in being his friend
Throughobstacles ยท 26-30, F
@QueenPeach thank you for the advice. I'm having a date on Sunday with a guy I've been talking to. I'm very excited, he seems really great.
Of course I want to be friends with a guy I really care about and have been there for for 1,5 years. But this guy happens to be an idiot and I'm so sad about that.
QueenPeach ยท 26-30, F
Donโ€™t worry youโ€™ll find better friends with time. Heโ€™s not worth it too much drama @Throughobstacles
Throughobstacles ยท 26-30, F
@QueenPeach I have a lot of friends. And all of them have excellent morals. He's just someone I grew to care a lot about
SW-User
Because he lied to her about you, she will find it harder to trust him around you.
Let him go.
SW-User
@MartinTheFirst ๐Ÿ‘€๐Ÿ‘€
MartinTheFirst ยท 26-30, M
@SW-User ๐Ÿ˜‚
SW-User
@MartinTheFirst ๐Ÿคฃ
ThePerfectUsername ยท 70-79, M
It sounds to me like he's blown any chance of winning back the respect you once had for him. Sad, I know, but I think your best bet it to chalk it up to experience and move on.
Noblety ยท M
I know there is a lot of history between you two. But you need to walk away. This isn't healthy for you. It seems you're the only one losing sleep over this. Good luck hun.
MarkPaul ยท 26-30, M
High maintenance alert. ๐Ÿ›Ž๏ธ
SW-User
Just cut him loose and move on. It's not rocket science to understand that he's moved on and doesn't really care about being friends.
Throughobstacles ยท 26-30, F
@SW-User He called me and told me he would talk to her and fix this. He didn't call to tell me we couldn't be friends, he called me to say we weren't Facebook friends, but it was only something to show her she didn't have to be jealous. He said that he did it hastily and that he would fix it.
SW-User
@Throughobstacles You're an adult. You guys are acting like children over this.
Throughobstacles ยท 26-30, F
@SW-User he is acting like a child, I told him that the choices he made were idiotic.
Have you been someone's best friend and only friend for 1,5 years and been there for him through all his struggles and then he's a idiot suddenly. He still wants me in his life, and I want the same.
I should cut out someone for being an idiot, but I'm definitely hoping he will fix it.
MrBrownstone ยท 46-50, M
Are you ok with a threesome?
MrBrownstone ยท 46-50, M
@Throughobstacles Did you fuck him?
Throughobstacles ยท 26-30, F
@MrBrownstone yes we were friends with benefits, we would sometimes start to catch feelings, but it was always on and off about that. In the end we were exclusive, but that was because he was an idiot and asked to be exclusive because he didn't want to lose me.
MrBrownstone ยท 46-50, M
@Throughobstacles FWB always has its drawbacks. Find a another guy.
User41 ยท 36-40, M
Drop him
UserNameSW ยท 46-50, M
Let him leave
MartinTheFirst ยท 26-30, M
Smart hu?

 
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