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How do I make this girl from school want to start convos with me?

We don't have any classes together because we're in different years (shes younger)
We met at a school event and I kinda started giving her tips as a senior, and we just talked quite a bit. At the end she asked to take a pic alone together with me, despite having already taken a few with the group we were working together with. (There was only four people in our group) So that means, at the least she liked me more than my friends.

Then she commented on my stories on instagram as well, and we had a few short convos. After I started talking to her though, she stopped instigating the convos. Like now its always up to me. We had this period of time where we didn't really talk, but just said hi to each other in school. But now we've had 2 long conversations about life. Even though I'm the one who started them, she's really eager to talk (she's told me all sorts of things) and our convo goes on for hours or even days.

I get that the first few times, its ok for me to start because I'm the older one and I'm friendly with everyone which might make me seem slightly less approachable, but like, we've had our long convos now, and I kinda wanna make her start talking to me first, cuz if i do it all the time i'm gna seem predatory lmao.

Helpppp

[c=#BF0080]How should I start a convo with her now that I don't have any valid context for it? Previously I was under the guise of a friendly senior, but that period is over already, and now I don't have any reason to just text her out of nowhere. Despite the fact that our conversation always trails off the actual reason I text her in the first place, I feel like I still kinda need a reason to start it.[/c]
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Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
Why do you want her to start the conversation??
ShadowOfMyself · 31-35, M
Probably so she feels this other girl likes her enough to put in the effort. That’s just me though@Dainbramadge
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@ShadowOfMyself Not everyone is comfortable doing stuff like that. I would say just play your part in the relationship and be the one who initiates the conversations. At least for now.
ShadowOfMyself · 31-35, M
that’s fair enough. It goes without saying that there is a time limit on this kind of things. Act too soon and you could stop the progress, act too late and you’ve missed your opportunity @Dainbramadge
Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
@ShadowOfMyself Great way to think about it. :-)
firelaw · 22-25, F
@Dainbramadge I think its also about the fact that every time I start a convo, it comes from a valid reason. Like I'd ask about things were going, running for student council, because I'm a senior from the council. When she got rejected I also tried to help her out, but it didn't work. Then we had a great convo about the shitty people who made it in and how in the end it wasn't worht it, and the convo progressed to other more postive deep stuff. Now that she hasn't made it in through though, I don't have any reason to initiate a convo with her. It's kinda up to her to post (literally anything) online so I can comment (but she doesn't), or comment on something I posted.