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How do I make this girl from school want to start convos with me?

We don't have any classes together because we're in different years (shes younger)
We met at a school event and I kinda started giving her tips as a senior, and we just talked quite a bit. At the end she asked to take a pic alone together with me, despite having already taken a few with the group we were working together with. (There was only four people in our group) So that means, at the least she liked me more than my friends.

Then she commented on my stories on instagram as well, and we had a few short convos. After I started talking to her though, she stopped instigating the convos. Like now its always up to me. We had this period of time where we didn't really talk, but just said hi to each other in school. But now we've had 2 long conversations about life. Even though I'm the one who started them, she's really eager to talk (she's told me all sorts of things) and our convo goes on for hours or even days.

I get that the first few times, its ok for me to start because I'm the older one and I'm friendly with everyone which might make me seem slightly less approachable, but like, we've had our long convos now, and I kinda wanna make her start talking to me first, cuz if i do it all the time i'm gna seem predatory lmao.

Helpppp

[c=#BF0080]How should I start a convo with her now that I don't have any valid context for it? Previously I was under the guise of a friendly senior, but that period is over already, and now I don't have any reason to just text her out of nowhere. Despite the fact that our conversation always trails off the actual reason I text her in the first place, I feel like I still kinda need a reason to start it.[/c]
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ShadowOfMyself · 31-35, M
It sounds like she wants you to chase her. You know, hard to get. I don’t know though. I’m just an outsider. Maybe, talking to her first is her way of getting confirmation you like her? I don’t know, I’m sorry I’m not of more use
firelaw · 22-25, F
@ShadowOfMyself True ahaha, maybe predatory was a bad word choice. I meant to say I felt like I'd be bugging her. And if she really was clueless, she'd start wondering why I was suddenly taking such an interest and maybe get suspicious or something. ahaha idk, i'm a lil paranoid
ShadowOfMyself · 31-35, M
In my experience, over thinking things complicates needlessly. Sometimes it’s better to act on instinct. I tend to make the better decisions in the moment. Instead of wondering “what if what if” maybe you should just straight go for it. You don’t want the opportunity to pass you by. Would you not rather know for sure? Open door philosophy. Open every door in front of you. That’s what I’ve been doing, anyway, and things have been turning out ok so far @firelaw
firelaw · 22-25, F
@ShadowOfMyself It's different for gay people though aha. I know the common phrase is rejection can't hurt, but currently I've only openly come out to my close friends, and even though I'm not trying to hide it (I constantly talk about it online, and I like to choose articles related to the community for classes), I also don't openly go around telling every person I meet because I'm in a conservative christian school and I don't fancy being the next topic of gossip. Not to mention its not accepted in my country.