How do I make this girl from school want to start convos with me?

We don't have any classes together because we're in different years (shes younger)
We met at a school event and I kinda started giving her tips as a senior, and we just talked quite a bit. At the end she asked to take a pic alone together with me, despite having already taken a few with the group we were working together with. (There was only four people in our group) So that means, at the least she liked me more than my friends.

Then she commented on my stories on instagram as well, and we had a few short convos. After I started talking to her though, she stopped instigating the convos. Like now its always up to me. We had this period of time where we didn't really talk, but just said hi to each other in school. But now we've had 2 long conversations about life. Even though I'm the one who started them, she's really eager to talk (she's told me all sorts of things) and our convo goes on for hours or even days.

I get that the first few times, its ok for me to start because I'm the older one and I'm friendly with everyone which might make me seem slightly less approachable, but like, we've had our long convos now, and I kinda wanna make her start talking to me first, cuz if i do it all the time i'm gna seem predatory lmao.

Helpppp

[c=#BF0080]How should I start a convo with her now that I don't have any valid context for it? Previously I was under the guise of a friendly senior, but that period is over already, and now I don't have any reason to just text her out of nowhere. Despite the fact that our conversation always trails off the actual reason I text her in the first place, I feel like I still kinda need a reason to start it.[/c]

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abe182 · 46-50, M

I think women liked to be chased. Let's them know you're interested in them. But being predatory is a whole other thing. If she's giving you clues that she's not interested then stop. Otherwise continue on, you're not a predator.
Touch or take her hand. Worse case scenario she'll go screaming down the hall, which won't happen.

ShadowOfMyself · 31-35, M

I like you@abe182

abe182 · 46-50, M

@ShadowOfMyself well thanks

firelaw · 22-25, F

@abe182 I don't see her a lot in school because we take completely different subjects. I [i]did[/i] pass her some sweets through our one common teacher once though, and it kinda turned into this funny joke because he'd thought it was for him at first.

abe182 · 46-50, M

@firelaw just be confident, not skiddish, not arrogant.

firelaw · 22-25, F

@abe182 sry predator was a wrong choice of words aha, I meant like I didn't want to seem annoying or bug her. I know that as a senior, when I talk to my juniors, no matter what I say its respectful for them to reply. I most definitely haven't bugged her yet because she continues the conversation willingly, and she commented on my ig story (only twice though, and thats when she [i]does[/i] watch it cuz she doesn't use social media a lot)

But I don't want to become this annoying person finding random excuses to talk to her. In fact, I've run out of reasons to text her, so now its kinda up to her to either give me something to comment on by posting somthing on her extremely silent social media, or start a convo with me.

firelaw · 22-25, F

@abe182 Oh I'm actually great when I'm talking to her. I've got the ability to hold deep meaningful conversation because I used to be an introvert, but at the same time I've got extroverted qualities like humour. And I'm slightly flirtatious, but a lot of girls are so its not like it stands out. But the only issue is that I don't have many opportunities to talk to her now if she doesn't start convos.

abe182 · 46-50, M

@firelaw OK screw social media. Ask her out.

firelaw · 22-25, F

@abe182 actually, there was a recent event that occured that would prevent me to do that even if I had any intention to aha. Some other kid seems to have a crush on her too, but they posted it online anonymously and out for everyone to see. So if I asked her out now it'd seem like it was me.

abe182 · 46-50, M

@firelaw ugh just say that wasn't me, say I like you and I'm not afraid to say it.
Don't let things get in your way.

firelaw · 22-25, F

@abe182 True but, thats a small reason ahah. If I get rejected it'd be pretty bad cuz i'm in a christian school, and even though I don't hide it, I don't tell everyone, and they're pretty clueless. So if i confess, most likely things will go downhill and I'd become the new gossip. Also at this point I kinda just wanna become closer friends with her. I kinda have to be friends with people before I get into anything, because you kinda get to know their personality really well before anything even starts. So it's more about just talking and getting closer, not a confession.