My best friend likes me and I don't. What can I do?

He never told me that he likes me, but it's so obvious.
It has been like eight years since the last time I had a boyfriend, and now the only person who likes me is my friend. I can't picture myself kissing him, holding his hand, I can't. He has always been my help, my confident, but I don't love him as something else.
I'm 24, no boyfriend, almost no dates, nothing.. I'm just waiting for the right person, but it seems like I always attract the wrong one.
I don't always like the most popular, the hottest, the smarter.. I don't usually like those kind of guys, but I don't like the guys I attract.
Am I too picky? It is right what I'm doing? It is right to wait until I'm sure the guy I have in front of me is THE GUY?

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

Maybe you could tell him what you said here:

I can't picture myself kissing him, holding his hand, I can't. He has always been my help, my confident, but I don't love him as something else.

But first tell him how much you value his friendship and don't want to lose it just because you don't have romantic feelings for him.

It's never easy to have this conversation. I've had to do this more than once, and it was painful for both of us each time. One of them was open to still being friends, and we did remain friends for a while. The others weren't really open to that, though one of them did accept it with good grace.

Just be honest but kind. That's my best advice. Best wishes.

Glitter22 · 31-35, F

@TeresaRudolph71 Thanks :)

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@Glitter22 You're welcome. <3