The more you tell me, the more I don't like this guy, and I actually worry about you and your kids. If I were part of your family, I would plead to you to not marry him No, I don't think its okay for him to pay just his personal bills while leaving the household bills just to you. He uses just as much water and electricity as you do, he should pay for some of that. And, yes, he needs to help provide for those kids, if they are his. And if you split up at any point, you can take him to family court to pay child support. It's wrong of him to not do so, even when you're together. If he continues to abuse you in anyway, get a restraining order for you AND your kids. I'm sorry Katie, but this isn't right. And no, this is not a relationship. You're being taken advantage of and used. If you want my advice, please don't marry him. There are much better men in this world, even those who will take you and your kids in and help you raise them. {{Hugs}}

I did take him to court and he lost it on me.. Called me a selfish b****. I agreed that he can give me a losu 400.. Which when u have 2 in diapers on formula 400 aint shit. He has since started making me give it back to him now that we r back together.


When he was charged with domestic assault he talked me into helping pay his lawyer bc it was my fault he has to pay a lawyer since i called the cops. He was infact found guilty of assault uttering threats as well as mischief so i think im able to get sole physical custody. Ive never been mean or horrible co parent ever ever. Hes screamed at me for asking him to take rhe kids bc he called it me forcing them on him.. So i stopped asking and started making plans just for the kids n i and then he would call and id say no sorry we have plans.. Then tried to say i was keeping him from them

I grew up without a dad and never would i ever ever do that to my kids unless they were abused which he does treat my son like shit. Total shit.

Today my son callef me a fuckin loser bc i didnt buy him candy. Hes 3. I wonder where he learned that from....

His friend just called him 10 mins ago and here he is beside me emailing him gas money but refuses to give me gas money to take OUR kids to school... IM AT a loss on what to do and whats actually best for my babies at this point..

Honey, you need to go see someone at Social Services. Look up Social Service in (your town/city). Tell them what you've told me and they will help and give you the best advice for where you are.

Of course, he lost it when you tried to take him to court, every man does, but you can't back down. Social Services will help back you up.

If you're not strong about this, things will just continue as they are. I know you don't want that. It's not healthy or safe for you or your kids to be around this situation.

And if you have really close friend where you are, explain to her/him about this and that you need their support. You can't do this alone. That's part of why I am referring you to Social Services. Please talk to them. I don't like your situation, and I'm worried about you.

He has a savings so that he can one day buy a house that he rite now cant buy due to his credit.

He knows that he treats me like poo he said im the only one hes ever treated this way and i dunno why.

He used to be a druggie i helped him he got clean and we had a family which he always wanted and this is the him that i got in return..im the only one hes ever hit he said and i dunno what i did or why

@Jonjdw: he is a spolied brat. He is also a narcissist. He has already agreed that he is and laughed.

You need to get out of that marriage.

I have tried this.