@samanthasmokes Most of mine have just drifted apart over the years. If we met now, I am sure it would be a hug and a smile, and thats about it. Which I guess is as it should be.

@Pherick yep, same for me! but at least we get that hug and a smile! 🤗

@exexec Nice of her to be up front with it.

@TheThinker Wow, thats some serious friend power.

@Pherick We're still good friends to this day, just over twenty years later.

I often wonder if we'd have been better off as friends rather than lovers in the first place.

It's just that we had such an instant connection on the night we met, one of those rare cases where you talk all night every night for weeks, so a sexual relationship just seemed natural and healthy and we were both up for it.

Sadly she lost her sex drive about nine months into it (partly due to health reasons, partly due to unresolved trauma over the death of her much-loved father) and there then followed six years of huge frustration before we finally called it a day.

That's the short version... but it will do for now. :-)

@PrivatePeeks I guess that does "help" when you aren't ending things for personal reasons.

@Pherick Going off to a far university could be considered a personal reason. Careers do matter.

@PrivatePeeks Very true, though I guess I consider that a practical matter more than a personal one, but either way, going off to university is a tough time to continue a relationship.

@SW-User Yea those kinds of relationships sometimes are very hard to hold on to.

@SW-User Remain friends? Or just let it all go?

@Pherick A couple I've remained friends with. Others we've stayed friendly but don't go out of our way to seek each other out.

@Mamapolo2016 Yes, I should add that most of my ex-s have been mostly amicable and I'm on speaking terms with nearly all of them.

There's usually a little bit of needle though, but we're all adults and just tend to step deftly around those issues if we talk.

The one case I mentioned up thread is the only one where there's no issues at all.