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Should I Avoid my Feelings for this Guy? (Christian Dating)

I've always believed that God has someone for me and when the time is right, we'll be brought together. However, in recent years, I have struggled with this belief, given how most people I know have been in and out of relationships whilst I've stayed single. As much as I hate to admit it, it really makes you feel worthless and to a certain extent, unlovable. That being said, God had shown me a number of prophecies in dream form, whereby I go on to get married and have children with a guy who has brown hair and glasses (same guy in each dream). While this has been relieving, I came face-to-face with a guy matching this description at a new Church I joined two months ago. From the minute I met him, I've had this weird gut feeling that I can't shake and now whenever I see him, I get extremely nervous and can't stop thinking about him. In fact, the night after I met him, I had this dream where we grew closer to one another, discussing faith and life values, and at the end of the dream, we kissed.

What worries me is that he is or was married (no longer wears his wedding ring). As far as I am aware, his wife has been very ill for a while and she hasn't come to Church in about a year. Some believe he now cares for her while others think they've separated. It isn't my place to pry and ask about this, but I do feel like he is bottling up so many emotions. He just seems so stressed sometimes and I pray that deep down, he is okay. Of course, I don't want to come between them in any way but I can't ignore how I feel. Just the other week, I got to speak to him for a little bit and it put the biggest smile on my face. I just wish I knew what this all meant. Obviously, I've prayed for interpretation but God just keeps giving me the same marriage and family dreams, which have left me more confused than ever before. What should I do?
You will never find the one you are meant to be with without dating. I don't want to sound like i'm disparaging your beliefs, I'm not meaning to. I don't know your dreams. However, this man you are talking about is married. Do you really believe God would hand you a married man to fall in love with? That does not go along with who he is and being that God never changes, I would think there is a different way.
Northwest · M
I would recommend you see a sleep specialist. You have vivid recollect of your dreams, which means you're not entering the deep sleep state, people require to recharge, be more balanced, etc.

As a general rule though, I would say you should stay away from married people, if you're a monogamous person, looking to get married and have kids of your own.

Also, if you want to wait at home, for God to send you someone, you may want to make good use of that time, by, perhaps, joining a Christian dating site, and look for some matches there.
Dreams can come from within ourselves, and it is important to consider that believing God can speak through dreams requires that we understand God's adversary can use the same lines of communication.

What more appealing way to feel worthwhile and lovable than to successfully tempt a married man into betraying his vows?

If what we think is a version of love makes us willing to harm the object of our affections, what kind of love is that?
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es0tericus · 26-30
Do the most impprtant thing. Be honest, with both yourself and him. Let everything else sort itself out.
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If you eat dinner at his house - or any member from Christian Dating sites -dont look in the freezer.

 
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