Does anyone else get sad when someone suggests sitting down for a real conversation with your spouse

What now I not only have to share the bed I have to talk to him? This is going to far

Sounds like she's scared. Like you're going to say "I'm leaving" or "I'm gay." Maybe give her a little time to prepare. Set the stage - maybe bring home her favorite takeout and a bottle of wine.

"We have to talk" scares a lot of people.

Write her a note. "I don't want to tell you anything bad. I want to know what's going on with you, with us. How you're doing. How we're doing. A few things maybe we can work on changing to make things even better."

What is your username about?

I don’t.