@Spiceweasel but were both dudes 🧐

I know I failed to phrase my response correctly, I've heard a lot of women that being friends after a break up works.

@Spiceweasel fair enough. It can certainly work but of course it doesn’t always.

@Dusty101 I was with ex for 20 years. We deal well together for our boys. Very well and the boys are doing well. She sees us as friends. Will even joke with me or reminisce about our past. I don't like it and tell. Marriage is over. We are co parents.

@Jammy it's different when kids are involved. Id prefer to remain amicable with the father of my child.
That's brilliant.
But with no kids.. There's no reason. 😃

@Dusty101 I agree..

@Fernie Hmmm good point

I miss being married to her and a being family@SW-User

@Jammy I'm sorry... : /

Thanks Lily@SW-User

@GJOFJ3 Yup.. :)

@Synyster Yup I get that... I'm the same for the most part.

@SW-User 😁

@Synyster 😜

@SW-User It sounds ridiculous.. lmao

@nem16 okay then sorry about that. sheesh. Lol

@SW-User Pshhh no need to apologise,it's kinda funny. :p

@Faust76 Yeah for myself I doubt I could remain friends unless I felt no love whatsoever for that person. but that's just me.

@SW-User It depends... and I also somewhat back the other responses saying sometimes it's less than people think etc. I've seen people going from in love, to "friends with benefits", to enemies when they discover that FWB is actually all they were. ("I can't believe the guy I was cheating with cheated on me!" in the worst case)

I'm sure it's possible for a good-hearted loving person to do the "unrequited love" even when one person is clear they're only enjoying the benefits, though I do wonder what sort of personality it takes. Do they really believe they're the best thing under the Sun for this other person who's clearly not interested in love regardless of their desires and feelings? Uh yeah, maybe already answered that, but from my side I do know the pangs of unrequited love as well and that alone can keep people together for a while unless they learn to let go.

@Faust76 Yeah that FWB is a tough call.. you have to be strong enough to realize the other person is only in it for the sex. Not always easy when there are other emotions involved. Unless of course you feel exactly the same way and in that case go for it. But I still think it gets complicated.


And as for the unrequited love that is also a very tough thing. Somewhat similar to the FWB I would think.

@CookieLuvsBunny that's true

@workathome I am not sure I agree for everyone with you on this.

@workathome Although last night my ex sent me a few comments that made her look jealous which was weird from her.

@SW-User yes I agree with that, otherwise it’s complicated and potentially painful. After a period of time has passed and as long as you’re properly over each other , it’s very possible to be good and genuinely platonic friends who care about each other and enjoy each other’s company from time to time but have no interest in getting back together. I’m living proof of that and I’m certainly not the only one.

@Helpinghands Yeah that makes total sense... thanks:)

@SW-User glad to be of service😌

@SweetMae yeah that's what I'm thinking too. How can you be friends with someone you once had deep feelings for?

@SW-User I couldn't be. Maybe some people just can't stand to let go?

@SweetMae Yeah it's a difficult thing.

@Degbeme hehehhehehe 😁

@SW-User :*

@pedrohedgerow it's a head scratcher lolz

@gemstone 🤔

@Cannabro interesting..

I’m thinking that is why divorce rate is so high because the ‘sparks’ are gone and both move on to a new lover ... lust is way easier than true love, true love is hard to find and it’s work to keep, lazy humans would rather not work for their love lol @SW-User

@Cannabro That is exactly true... people just don't want to fight for it anymore.

@OKWTF2 that's good

@Picklebobble2 Yeah it's an emotional thing. Not everyone can do it.

@Backinblack Yeah I get that...

@LittleBlueAngelBoy yeah

@Starcrossed yes possibly..

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